THIS is Why You Cheated.

I'm tired of people cheating in relationships when they put themselves in a situation to cheat in the first damn place.   Oh, you probably don't understand what I mean.   What I'm saying is....some people are greedy and want to "dip and dab" with anyone who is easy on the eyes.  There's no changing those selfish bastards. BUT...some people link up with a person who they know damn...

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THIS IS THE PERSON YOU SHOULD NEVER GET ADVICE FROM

You should always consider the source when you take advice from someone.  Many times (especially within the lady population) we will vent to our girlfriends about our lives and try to make ourselves feel better about a situation - after all, it is healthy to vent rather than holding in emotions.  I don't believe the story ever ends well for a person that doesn't ever express their emotions....

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Pointers for Dealing w/ an A**hole

When you are in a situation where you are directly addressing an a**hole, there are many things you can do that will immediately place you on their level. I REPEAT... When you are in a situation where you are directly addressing an a**hole, there are many things you can do that will immediately place you on their level. "Knuckle Sandwich Approach" Alright kids, now I understand that watching...

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10 KEY DEAL BREAKERS IN DATING SOMEONE....

PAYING FOR THE DATE.  - I remember a guy I was dating for a hot second took me out a few times then hit me with a question that caught me off-guard.  He asked me if I had a problem with paying for dinner or taking the bill sometimes.  So I'm sitting there thinking to myself...um...(sigh).  First of all, HE ASKED ME ON THE DATE!!! If I had asked him to go out....SURE!!! I should...

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Learn Some Damn Respect.

If you're in a relationship and you know you would be upset if you saw your mate giggling on the phone with someone of the opposite sex, MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT DO IT TO THEM. If you are a man and you're out at a club where you decided to take sand to the beach (aka - you brought your girlfriend) you better play with your FREAKIN sand unless you are saying it's okay for your girl to be sandwiched...

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I Gave Her 5 Times to Piss Me Off...

For the most part, people start off with a very pleasant and clean slate with me when I first meet them - regardless of what i've heard about them.  I know that sounds very "politically correct" to say, but I usually try to build my own opinion of a person without biased information influencing me - mostly because people can lie and you never know who could be "hating" on who. So, I was hosting...

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THIS Is What Will Save Your Relationship!!!

Click on the video below where I break down the necessary elements needed to play the relationship game.  Don't over-analyze the fact that I just said relationship "GAME" either. It's just an expression...calm down. ((smiley face)) ...

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Get That Phony Smile Outta Here!!!

Do you ever get around someone and want to gag yourself because of how disgustingly "happy" they always seem?  Personally, I LOVE being around others who are cheerful and their energy is good - but ONLY if it's GENUINE.  When I'm around someone who I sense is only "wearing" a smile, it really really irks me and makes me want to drop a bowling ball on their foot.  Like 3 times...

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"I Wish You Would Just Have My Back"

Picture this.  I'm looking into the eyes of this beautiful, confident, and engaging man over candlelight and soft classical music.  We've been dating for a few months and the vibe has been perfect every time we connect.  We joke the same, we seem to speak the same body language...THEN, the question of "what are you looking for in a girlfriend" comes from my lips and he goes into...

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He's Just Not Good Enough!!!

Can you learn to love somebody?  I hear tons of men talk about how women don't want to be with "nice guys" and that many of them end up dealing with the jerk who treats them like a second-class citizen - but what about the fact that chemistry and an attraction is needed in order to have a promising connection? I would argue that it's pretty hard to force yourself to feel a way you naturally...

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It Takes a LOT More Than Your Body to be Sexy... (PART ONE)

I’m not even hating on Nicki Minaj for real.  She is a paid entertainer.  But some females need to learn the art of being sexy.  Nicki’s pose right here isn’t sexy at all.  Yeah, the majority of dudes would love to see a woman putting her whoo-ha on display (I'm sure it's a scientific fact).  But being sexy has nothing to do w/ how naked you can get for dudes who will...

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The "C" Question --- WOULD YOU DO THIS ON A DATE?

So, I'm out at a restaurant hanging out with a friend and getting to know his family and friends a little better.  I'm checking out the menu being pretty aware of prices of the things I had my eye on because I always try to be respectful when it comes to what I'm ordering if someone else is paying (I mean, that's just me.  I know some of you all wouldn't think twice about ordering that...

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MICHAEL EALY SPEAKS ON RELATIONSHIPS, LOVE AND THINKING LIKE A MAN.

Michael Ealy visited Howard University to talk about his movie that just dropped over the weekend, "Think Like a Man" and I had the privilege of hearing his thoughts about dating and relationships. CHECK IT OUT HERE: I've heard a LOT of people with strong opinions of this movie before it even dropped in theaters.  Most of the opinions that have said that it wasn't worth watching seem...

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MICHAEL EALY UP CLOSE...YES, HIS FACE.

Michael Ealy stopped by Howard University last week to promote the upcoming movie, "Think Like a Man" that drops on April 20th.  The day before, I couldn't help but to notice that people were tweeting like crazy about him coming into town and I retweeted a mention about him coming myself.  But then I went to his "Twitter Account" and noticed that it only had like 450 followers -- it...

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I Want To Feel Secure!!!

Making sure your home is secure at the most vulnerable hours of the night is one of those priceless things that any family takes appreciation for.  The Home Security Family website is a very cost-effective and obtainable way to see that when you are out of your home or sound asleep, your property is in the best of care with motion detectors around various entry areas and alert settings. The cost of your peace of mind can be as cheap as $1 a day and you also have the possibility of receiving...

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MARRIAGE KILLS RELATIONSHIPS!!!

  That's the line I hear all too often. I know much of my blog directs emphasis on women getting their minds right about relationships.  But one big problem I have with the way men and women operate in relationships is the fact that no one ever wants to take ownership for the part they contribute to a problem.  There is usually a person who sees themselves...

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WHO HAS A SHADY CIRCLE???

 We all have heard the saying, "Watch the company you keep".  The problem is that many of us have heard it, but haven't LIVED it.  We often allow things like availability, location and boredom to help us figure out who we keep around.  The problem is our judgment system (or lack thereof) often gets us into trouble. If you ever want to know where you are headed and...

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WHAT GABRIELLE UNION SAID TO ME…

Alright so...I'm at Sirius XM chillin on the Shade 45 side of life with the awesome and fabulous Sway from MTV and Gabrielle Union walks in looking like the beauty queen she has always been (she's even gorgeous in a sweat suit,  I wanted to slap this chick).  Sway was getting his interview situation going with her and in-between air time, I managed to slide in a question with...

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11 YEAR OLD WHO HAS HER OWN BUSINESS!!!

 I was at Hotel Monacco in Washington, DC a few days ago at the Verizon Small Business Empowerment Series hosted by Cathy Hughes, founder of Radio and TV One.  As I waited to go into the ballroom to take my seat I met several ladies with their own businesses.  And while all of these ladies were amazing, the person who stole the show for me was half my height and almost...

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WONDER WIFEY SAID I’M HIS MAIN CHICK!!!!

 Yeah she did.  I was surfing the Facebook waves and came across this picture of a guy I knew with his arm around a girl and the caption below the picture said, "I don't have to have his last name I know I'm his main girl and y'all hatin' a** chicks are just thirsty for what we have...(blah-blah-blah)" - it said something like that.  Alrighty...sooooo my antennas went up...

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ABUSED SLANG WORDS: PLEASE READ AND TAKE NOTES

RATCHET ---  Do you ever want to co-sign with somebody when they make a good point but because of how ignorant they said it you just change your mind?  That's how I feel when I usually see people use this word.  It's popular to say, YES...but sometimes the person doing the accusing sounds just as...well...RATCHET as the person they're insulting.  Hopefully I don't...

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