Alright now, damn that.
This one is for men and women - whether you're involved or not, most of us have preferences (some need to aim lower or higher depending on how accurate your self-image is - that probably wasn't nice, but whatever).
I feel like the preferences are more about appearances for most people but for me personally, I COULD NOT talk to a guy who I'd have to dumb down my whole existence for.
Some chicas are in bed right now with the dude with the Super Size Yankee Doodle and a Happy Meal conversation. I'd probably drown myself in sink water having a man like that. I don't know if it's the same for men though. I feel like I know some men who would rather have a chick that isn't as quick as she could be. Hopefully I'm wrong though. Do men even care about this?
On the same tip, I wouldn't want someone who talked down to me because they thought they knew every damn thing. That condescending tone is definitely one good way to channel my inner Sailor-Scorpion-Samurai-Slow kick to the jaw reflex I got going on behind my Care Bear exterior. (Damn anyone who doesn't believe I'm a nice person).
I feel the same way about men who act like a doormat. They don't have any threshold of how they should be treated. Now I KNOOOOOOWWWWWWW men have this mindset about women. This is your mental separation of a possible "keeper" versus a "to do list item". And yes, most of these "doormat men" call themselves "nice guys" when they really need to change it to "delicate dudes that need to eat a man the f**k up sandwich".
I'm just saying, please stop confusing "nice" with missing a backbone.
It might be worse for me because intellectually, I feel like I need someone who I can talk to and have a decent (doesn't have to be perfect) exchange with about things that are important to us. That would affect how attracted I am hands down. Not that I need for us to talk all the time, but he should be able to. I could see a handsome, physical package of a man all day, but if he talked like Waka Flocka aka 2nd grade spelling bee, I'd disappear right before I rubbed his ribcage. Giggity. Just joking.
Anywho, I'm really curious about the male side of this equation. I feel like a lot people have lower standards (if any at all), but is intelligence on the list at all? And if not, why?
Hmmmmmm????