I KNOW YOU DON'T WANT ME BECAUSE I HAVE KIDS!!!

Let me explain sumthin to you Lucy ::in my Ricky Ricardo voice::  look at my words RIGHT down here: THERE ARE MEN OUT THERE WHO WILL LOVE YOU REGARDLESS OF THE FACT THAT YOU ALREADY HAVE CHILDREN!!! Some ladies don't understand this situation because they feel somehow tainted or scarred by the fact that the relationship didn't work with the father.   A grown ass man...

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ARE NICE GUYS "NICE" BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO BE??? (PART 2)

I got some really interesting feedback about this topic and I wanted to elaborate on it more AND clarify a few things if I may (clears throat). Most of the people who I talked to about this wanted to place emphasis on the female mentality by saying that women do NOT respond well to the men that have more "gentleman-like" qualities and sadly enough...men that are classified as "nice...

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ARE NICE GUYS "NICE" BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO BE??? (PART 1)

Q: Exactly how "NICE" is a nice guy? Are they nice because they want to be or because they HAVE to be?   My reason for talking about this is: I have come across certain guys...friends...and ones I've went out on a date or two with who believe 200% that women don't appreciate or want "nice guys". They said that when a guy treats a woman how THEY SAY they want to be treated...they...

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I DIDN'T REALLY LOVE MY EX

I was so confused about my ex that (at the time) I had invested 6 plus years into. No matter how many times I tried to work things out with him, I was always reminded how much he was Mr. Wrong.   I was at a point of my life where I knew that inner growth was mandatory because I had spent so much time running from my problems - especially with him.  I prided myself on...

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IF YOU DON’T WANT YOUR MAN TO CHEAT…

I've heard just about everything in life when it comes to keeping your man from cheating. Everything. I've heard that you should make sure you handle biz in the kitchen on the regular...I've heard you should make him feel like he's cheating with you sometimes and have role-play where you're his "whore/slut/sex toy whatever", and I've also heard that it's a lost cause because men will...

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GOLDDIGGER VS PROSTITUTE VS WOMAN: A BREAKDOWN

YES KIDS.  It's time to clear up this situation because there is nothing more annoying in the world than for TERMS and WORDS to be confused for one another.  ("Hating" and Disagreeing being one of them but that's another post.) I'm breaking this down because women are confused on a regular basis about where their head should be when they start dating someone.  The confusion often...

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LET'S TALK ABOUT CHURCH FOLKS

One thing that I've noticed as I get older is that the church population (meaning people that attend a church regularly) have a very powerful reputation in the eyes of people who don't frequent church very often.  Many people that don't make going to church a priority of theirs often say similar things when they talk about why they do not attend church. And yes, I am speaking...

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AM I JEALOUS OF THIEVES???

At the end of the day...when I look back 30-40 years from now and see what I've accomplished and what I've done to prosper in the world, one thing I will stand firm on is the fact that I took the road to help others and do right by other people.  I seen some people I've encountered personally and others that I managed to dodge who make it a mission of theirs to get ahead by 'any...

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STOP TRYING TO FORCE A SITUATION

It's so crazy how we always try to do things within our own strength and half of the time...we blind ourselves with uncertainty and confusion. Deep down we know the answer, but we're afraid to move on what our intuition is telling us. And one thing that my friend had to remind me one day was that we can either react on what God tries to show us...or we can let him come in and shake...

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THE ATTEMPTED MURDER OF CHIVALRY

Chivalry is ENDANGERED...not DEAD.  I definitely have had my experiences in the past with guys that couldn't spell the word R-E-S-P-E-C-T with a broke record of Aretha Franklin in the room, but I wonder sometimes if the majority of ladies have to learn things the hard way when they're dealing with a disrespectful or non-chivalrous other half. I've been amazed at the women I've...

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