I’M NOT GIVING YOU SEX!!!

This guy right here had me snappin' my fingers like I just got blown away with poetry.  That "we're havin' Church in here today" poetry.  Maybe if we can find an artist to make a song about this in a really clever way, then it might get thru to a few ladybugs.  Seriously.  His name is John Lott and he's on my Facebook.  He often speaks his mind, but today he said something that TOO MANY CHICAS NEED TO GET THROUGH TO THEIR BRAIN.  He said:

"LADIES, many of you get mad at me for saying that you have a power that you will not harness and use for good. You say, "He's always blaming women"(smh). You have used "it" to lead men astray, so why not use "it" for good. If you didn't WANT thugs, deadbeats, and rappers that disrespect women....THERE WOULDN'T BE ANY.  Stop blaming men for the things you support or silently condone. Yes, it requires discipline and a BOYCOTT...but isn't it worth it??? For your daughter's sake?"

Then he gives a BIG example of the power of the P-U - (y'all know how to spell it) right here w/ this link discussing a sex strike over in the Phillipines:

CLICK HERE FOR STORY OF SEX STRIKE 

The fact is: many of us that complain spend more time venting rather than being an example of the solution.

People get tired of hearing complaints....BUT MOST OF THESE PEOPLE WHO ARE TIRED OF HEARING COMPLAINING DO THE SAME THING TOO!!!

People do WHAT YOU LET THEM DO.  You might not be able to change a person, but you damn sure can change how they interact with you.  It takes two to keep that going and you are one-half of that equation.

This is not male-bashing.  This is just a wake-up call reminder.  I love my strong men of all shades and walks of life that are being true to themselves and others - BUT THERE ARE A CLASS OF LADIES OUT HERE WHO REWARD JACKED UP BEHAVIOR.  AND WHY?  BECAUSE YOU NEED HIS PENIS?  HIS MONEY?  HIS SIDE OF THE BED TO BE WARM TOO?  - i'll bet you have that with him...but only on days he feels like giving it too you and not someone else.  And with that being said...i'll just say the other door WAAAAAAY over there ~~~~~~~~~~>  looks much more appealing.

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EVERYBODY WANTS TO POST A QUOTE...

EVERYBODY WANTS TO POST A QUOTE...

 That they DON'T follow themselves.  I've probably done this too so just feel snuggly and warm on the inside knowing that I'm talking about myself too.  I don't understand why people spend so much time posting cute little pictures of quotes or things so somebody will co-sign for them on Facebook - instead of spending more time actually focusing on what the message is about.

Alright...so I did that one time about the whole saying, "Your ATTITUDE determines your LATITUDE".  I probably made this post sometime in 2010 earlier that year.  Little did I know about a year and some change later...my surroundings (people-wise) had drastically changed and for the first time I realized many things and types of people that annoyed the Sugar Honey Iced Teabags out of me.  So yeah...I had some PMS-like action in my mental space.  "Some PMS" really was more like "excessive" to be totally honest.  Especially in the morning.  I wanted to kick a couple of innocent metro riders down a malfunctioning escalator for no reason.  I felt icky and annoyed. 

It's SOOOOOO easy to come across "righteous" and like a "voice of reason" but half the time, we have no idea that self-reflection is so much more important.  Honestly, how many of us REALLY post a quote because we want to reach out to someone who may benefit from what we post...rather than just having 15+ people co-sign on what you're saying (which is really preaching to the choir or having a slight case of narcissism).

Trust me, I post stuff too, but I actually pray on these things.  I didn't say I wear any halos or anything (Lord knows I'm crying out for help daily) but I try to practice what I preach at least.  Remember that you are always a student.  Unless you are claiming to be God.  And that we are most certainly NOT.

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I ONLY HAVE MALE FRIENDS

How many ladies out there have heard another woman who brags about having mostly or all male friends because females "cannot be trusted"?

Does anything about that statement make you want to kick her down a flight of steps?  (I'm not violent, I swear.)

This entry will be brief (I think) but I'll have PLENTY MORE TO SAY ABOUT IT in future postings.

This topic really makes me want to stress the value of female bonding.  It's a priceless thing to have in your life when you can honestly be true friends with other women without there being a trust issue.

Saying that you have all male friends DOES NOT MEAN you are down to earth, or more easygoing, or smarter than a woman who has a balance of male/female friends or the woman who is only closer to other women.  It's only saying that apparently you have a chip on your shoulder about women (much like a sexist or a racist) and it should be addressed.

There are untrustworthy people (male and female) PERIOD.  No one gender takes the crown for being the biggest jerk.  Sorry. 

And one thing that a person who brags about something like this should really do is ask themselves:  What's the REAL reason why I don't have many female bonds?  Is it because they're all "haters"?  Or is there a deeper reason that I may be in denial about? 


All the cat-like behavior from the ladybugs needs to stop. 

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