Sometimes, it's hard to think for yourself when you have loved ones in your ear. Sometimes their input is helpful, but other times it can cause a world of problems, including the potential loss of a real connection.
There are too many people who don't have their sh*t together in their own personal lives who love to tell someone who has more going for them (at the time) what they need to be doing. Sometimes even a person who is in a relationship has a wealth of bad advice for their friend or relative because of their lack of perspective, or they can't even relate.
After peeping the play, "Ms. Independent" that showcased in Washington, DC at the Warner Theatre, it had me thinking about the way others come in-between people and their relationships with inconsiderate input.
FACT: BEING DISTRACTED IS ONE OF THE MAIN KILLERS OF INTIMATE BONDS!!!!
Some of the strongest alliances I can think of have one major thing in common: their connection cannot be easily shaken (if at all) by the opinions of others.
In the play, Carleena (played by Robin Givens) was set up by her mother to be driven away from her husband -- using another man (singer Christopher Williams) to lure her away. Some people have situations that aren't as crazy and the input from loved ones are more subtle, but there is still manipulation involved where someone else's agenda is being carried out.
And it's definitely not just with a woman. Sometimes a man's "crew" gets in the middle of his mindset and has him messing up priorities as well. It's valid on both sides of the equation to say that both people in a relationship need to come into the situation with an open mind and their own independent thoughts.
If you can't think for yourself, you are going to have a hard time being a good catch for somebody else. I know a lot of people in denial about the fact that they don't think for themselves too. Make sure you check your mirrors for more than a quick selfie.
