I’m not even hating on Nicki Minaj for real. She is a paid entertainer. But some females need to learn the art of being sexy. Nicki’s pose right here isn’t sexy at all. Yeah, the majority of dudes would love to see a woman putting her whoo-ha on display (I'm sure it's a scientific fact). But being sexy has nothing to do w/ how naked you can get for dudes who will obviously buy into your bare body parts. A grown woman understands that truly being sexy has nothing to do with showcasing T&A. It’s a language that your whole personality communicates. Being in touch with your body is only part of the recipe. There are LOTS more ingredients, but too many women focus on this part because it’s instant gratification to get 85 likes on Facebook for being assed out. How many likes can you get for just being an awesome person? Just wondering.
REMEMBER THIS ONE?
And let me start by saying that I realize not every woman who "models" fits the type of female I'm addressing in this blog post. But I am addressing the woman who knows on the inside that she spends endless money, time and energy on her public sexuality rather than something more meaningful. Am I judging you? NO. But I feel like a big sister telling you that you are sincerely doing too much.
To exude sensuality has nothing to do with being raunchy like a porno reject. Some women are sexy and know how to command attention because they are in touch with who they are and MEN NOTICE IT. That was the part that some "hard knock life" females didn't get taught. I feel for a woman who had to practically raise herself and exposing her body is the only way she gets validated, appreciated, or even paid because if she really knew what sexy was, she would know that she was doing entirely too much, for far too little.
You go and ask any man with a decent personality and standards for his life what type of woman does he want to have around him. Mind you, he will probably poke his penis out for a wet vagina because if it comes easy enough, why not? But he damn sure doesn't have to like you to do it and he will probably be hoping deep down in the crevices of his soul that you will magically disappear after he gets his rocks off. Sexy or not, I know PLENTY of men who can't stand to be around a woman who is fine on the outside, but her personality is like talking to a kid. He can like every last one of your butt cheek pics (that's part of the pre-game bidding anyway) but I guarantee you that you won't be able to remove that image from his mind or his intentions). And any woman who says, "shoot I feel the same way about him, he's MY hoe" is emotionally scorned from something. You should admit it and work on that because that's not a natural feeling from a woman. It's NOT.
I remember seeing "Flavor of Love" back when it was on and I think it was Buckey who showed Flav a pic of her showcasing her oiled up a** cheeks and in the same second told Flav how she's looking for a man to love her for her mind. So y'all already know what I was looking like when I heard that one (note the expression below)
(yep...stuck RIGHT ON STUPID)
And the sad part is, the only defense that most of these women throw up when someone who cares tries to school them about this matter is that they have haters. (Again, check the above picture) Now I ain't Beyonce' or anything, but 'er um....I don't need to hate on ANYONE. I get attention PLUS RESPECT because I know what I'm worth. And it's worth a hell of a lot more than strangers telling me what I should already know about myself. There are TOO MANY WOMEN out here with no purpose who don't feel validated unless someone makes a horny ass comment about them.
PLUS!!! BACK TO MY ORIGINAL POINT...
Sexy is a state of mind. It's not in your exposed body that makes you a small fish in a HUGE pond of girls doing the exact same thing as you. Sexy is being in touch with who you are in this world and what you stand for. What/who do you love, what you can do for others, what/who inspires you, what can you teach other people, what's going to be your legacy? Your speed of bouncing on a dude's penis? Or will it be something that means something? Aren't you intelligent enough for that? I think you are.
This isn't about hate. It's about love. It's not fair that black women get labeled so many awful things (most of the time by other black men) and to add insult to injury, these women are right there to validate the labels!!! So it's okay to be naked next to a dude who looks like Gremlins in 3D iMAX calling you a b*tch and a thirsty ho*. And in the same vein, you say you are a business woman who is getting paid. Boss, you are NOT. You are a sex OBJECT while a woman who knows the "Art of Sexy" is far more sophisticated and is considered a sex SYMBOL - there is a BIG difference.
A "YES MAN/WOMAN" who won't tell you the truth doesn't love you. A "YES MAN/WOMAN" doesn't care about you any more than a dude that just wants to get in your pants and then clown you for being so damn loose.
But what the hell do I know...I'm just a "hater"... (LOL) **plays "I'll Be Dat" by Redman**
"FACEBOOK FEMALES YOU DON'T HAVE TO UPLOAD HALF NAKED A** PICTURES TO SHOW PEOPLE THAT YOU'RE SEXY. LOOKS REALLY AREN'T EVERYTHING. BE SEXY BY THE WAY YOU ACT,COMMUNICATE,THINK,ETC.. LEARN TO RESPECT YOUR SELF" - MANNY FROM FACEBOOK <--- I SAW HIS STATUS THE SAME TIME I WAS WRITING UP THIS TOPIC...FUNNY HOW STUFF LIKE THAT HAPPENS.
