I asked various gentleman about how they felt when it came to stronger women who can be controlling, assertive, and head strong. I even asked about the women who come across as more of a "homeboy". I felt the need to clarify the mentalities of men when it comes to what they truly want in a woman. And obviously I know all men are different, but I believe it's safe to say they gravitate more towards a woman who can balance herself.
QUOTES OF MALES WHO WERE ASKED HOW THEY FELT ABOUT THIS TYPE OF WOMAN:
"I don't have a problem with strong women! But those in particular blow me! Reason being they have tunnel vision. Im about partnership and acknowledging that a woman is just as strong or stronger in many areas. I understand I need that queen! Being raised by a mom who was single and has major respect for herself. Yet, I also know that those women in particular have been burnt by a sexist society and a lack of "man" in their life who showed them love genuinely. I get the independence, but in the end I like women who know who they are yet understand they need me as I need them.... I went in...I know!"
"It doesn't bother me, but it's not what I like. It's not how I coexist with someone I'm interested in.
And a controlling woman does bother me."
"My ex was controlling. She always thought her way was the right way and if it wasn't to her liking, it was a problem. Just about any time, it didn't matter. Sometimes she tried to control her abrasiveness, but at her convenience."
"It depends though. You gotta have the right mix and match. If you as a man aren't strong enough to lead a woman because she has that abrasive, whatever type of mentality, then she probably isn't for you. Like, I can't be a bum...lazy...no ambition ass dude and expect to lead or take care of someone like that."
"To me personally, I wouldn't go for it unless they had something more to offer."
"In some cases and situations, I can see them as the perfect mate because I tend to be more relaxed with them."
"When she comes off as that Type A, aggressive and abrasive woman, when a female doesn't show that softer and intimate side and a guy isn't able to see that, he usually sees just wanting to hang, but nothing permanent."
"I don't take a woman seriously who tries to show me she's like one of the guys. That's what my homies are for. My woman is for being just that, a WOMAN."
"I don't take a woman seriously who tries to show me she's like one of the guys. That's what my homies are for. My woman is for being just that, a WOMAN."
"Women like that can be very cold, which isn't the type of woman I'd be comfortable with opening up to. Hurt people hurt people."
"That hard personality where I can't see your vulnerability is where I have the biggest problem. Women like this are famous for fronting about what they really feel until she's about to explode."
"There's nothing wrong with be assertive and confident, but masculine traits doesn't rest well in femininity."
"The need for control doesn't translate to love. It's an insecurity and a defense mechanism from preventing hurt."
"You can't be open, transparent and vulnerable being controlling."
"The "Alpha Female" concept works well outside God's ways."
"Women like this do a lot of talking down on a man."
"They have a challenging ear instead of a receptive ear, and it presents unnecessary problems."
I believe there are many women who don't come across genuine (I always talk about men with the genuine factor) and it hurts them in the long run. I stress being true to yourself when dealing with anyone because that is the side that will truly connect to someone who may be just as scared as you to let go and possibly love.
I believe there are many women who don't come across genuine (I always talk about men with the genuine factor) and it hurts them in the long run. I stress being true to yourself when dealing with anyone because that is the side that will truly connect to someone who may be just as scared as you to let go and possibly love.
