IT NEVER FAILS:
You have members of both sexes that complain about things they bring on themselves. Now, as a fellow HUMAN BEING, none of us are immune to making mistakes and having to pick up the pieces - but LEARNING FROM THEM is a virtue that many people need to practice.
FOR THE WOMEN:
You will hear her talk about how all men want to smash and pass through her life when all he has to do is show up with some Bacardi Dark and his penis and you're daydreaming about what wedding colors you're going to pick out while he's secretly plotting his exit strategy after he cleans off enough of your juices to go back outside.
FOR THE MEN:
You'll see them post nonsense on their Instagram or rant about women that use men for their money, or women that don't bring anything to the table. But every time you entertain a woman you either overcompensate and overspend instead of making a genuine connection with your personality. You hide yourself behind all this shit you have on your resume or in your bank account and then have the AUDACITY to complain because you baited the fish and caught her Flounder lookin a**?! You get the woman who you either have no chemistry with, or the woman who broke your heart because instead of being authentic, you chose Door Number STATUS. Your failure is EPIC.
Now for each of these situations, I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with being grown and doing what you want to do. But not understanding the results of what you do is where the disconnect seems to occur.
Ladies, if you decide to get down with a man who isn't attached to you, who you're not sure what or how he feels (not in his words, but in his ACTIONS), that's your choice as a human citizen of the Planet Earth. BUT, understand that your mindset is one of compensation and neediness when you give yourself in so many ways to a man who you haven't truly connected with. Unfortunately, we live in a day and age where many men are not in the family mindset of things anyway. Lots of them will say they're ready for commitment, but cannot handle the temptations of what their surroundings have to offer. Even for a man that's gassing your head up about the possibilities, you need to ask yourself some questions.
Could you call on this person if you were in a bind?
Does he do anything to show he cares for your well-being?
Are you in regular contact with this person? (like, everyday you hear his voice)
Is there a genuine and mutual effort to see one another?
Is he (or has he) opened up parts of his world to you? (his place, friends, relatives, kids if he has them, hobbies, goals, etc.)
Much of the problem we have with the choices we make is that we don't hold ourselves accountable for the outcome of what we do. Those guidelines above are about setting a standard of who should get the privilege of consuming your emotional space. Don't settle for less because you're lonely or impatient. No man that wants you will make you question his motives with you. Period.
Now for the gentleman. ((Deep sigh)). Poor Tinkerbell. First of all, a man who overcompensates for what his own insecurities are deep down can be just as bad as a womanizing jerk who wants to stick his weenis in every lady hole imaginable. Why? Because it's all a facade. Your representative is putting in a strong bid like you're at an auction and eventually a woman will see through all of it. If a REAL CONNECTION is what you crave, you have to make one and get out of your own way. Stop worrying about what is going to happen if you were to just be yourself and DO IT. Sadly enough, men have just as many insecurities and hang ups as women nowadays. Things can be so simple if you just learn how to CHILL THE HELL OUT AND TRULY ENGAGE THE WOMAN. Stop trying to impress her and just take in the moment. For some, I'm sure it will take practice, but I know there's someone out there this is meant for. You're welcome dammit.
