Q: Exactly how
"NICE" is a nice guy? Are they nice because they want to be or
because they HAVE to be?
My reason for talking about this is:
I have come across certain guys...friends...and ones I've went out on a date or two with who believe 200% that women don't appreciate or want "nice guys". They said that when a guy treats a woman how THEY SAY they want to be treated...they don't respond to it well.
And stuff like this irks my life honestly. Yes...I said my WHOLE LIFE. Reason being that people refuse to make a thoughtful assessment and size up an entire situation. Instead they scratch the surface making a general statement that isn't valid at ALL. Well, actually some of it's valid LOL.
But let me stop confusing you....I'm going to break this down for anyone who needs to put this matter into perspective.
1) A "nice guy" is not a doormat. For all of you "self-proclaimed" nice guys that call yourselves "nice guys" JUST because you haven't had a lot of experience with women or you fear rejection like you fear catching Swine Flu...you can't just call yourself "nice" because you humble yourself out of lack of confidence rather than your internal respect for the woman you are interested in. I could probably name about 20 guys right now that are selfish and self-serving as hell but would humble themselves for a woman they find attractive off of the sole fact that they lack self-confidence and would step out of character in order to meet her approval.
2) There are PLENTY of women that are aloof, misguided and wouldn't know a "nice guy" from a statue of George W. Bush. Some women fail to get in touch with herself long enough to know what type of guy she is dealing with in the first place. So yes, THESE WOMEN may be more likely to fancy a guy who would dropkick her down a flight of steps with a straight face. (I know that was violent but I'm just sayin')
3) I'm not trying to further damage the confidence of a guy who has issues with approaching or maintaining a connection with a woman. Really I'm just trying to take away from the DENIAL a guy may have about his lack of lady action. WOMEN WANT CONFIDENCE...NOT A DOUCHEBAG. (Pardon the expression...again...i'm just sayin').
AGAIN....REAL WOMEN WANT A MAN THAT CAN STAND UP FOR HER AND HIMSELF. A MAN THAT IS AWARE OF HIMSELF AND KNOWS WHO HE IS AND MORE IMPORTANTLY...WHAT HE WANTS. THE PROBLEM WITH "JERKS" ARE THAT THEY DISPLAY A FALSE SENSE OF CONFIDENCE. THEN, WOMEN THAT ARE EVEN LESS CONFIDENT ACCEPT THEIR BEHAVIOR AND THRIVE OFF OF THE ENDLESS CHALLENGE OF GETTING ALONG WITH A GUY WHO ALREADY HAS AN INTERNAL STRUGGLE AND THEN IT SHINES THROUGH WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP...OR BETTER YET FOR LACK OF A BETTER EXPRESSION: EVERYBODY'S ALL JACKED UP.
BUT BACK TO THE SELF-PROCLAIMED "NICE GUY", JUST THINK ABOUT IT. IF A NON-CONFIDENT GUY SUDDENLY DEVELOPED SOME SWAG (GOSH I WISH THAT WORD SWAG WOULD DIE) WOULD HE STILL BE THE SAME PERSON THAT PUT A LADY ON A PEDESTAL?
~~~ DOODLEBUG SHRUG ~~~
I have come across certain guys...friends...and ones I've went out on a date or two with who believe 200% that women don't appreciate or want "nice guys". They said that when a guy treats a woman how THEY SAY they want to be treated...they don't respond to it well.
And stuff like this irks my life honestly. Yes...I said my WHOLE LIFE. Reason being that people refuse to make a thoughtful assessment and size up an entire situation. Instead they scratch the surface making a general statement that isn't valid at ALL. Well, actually some of it's valid LOL.
But let me stop confusing you....I'm going to break this down for anyone who needs to put this matter into perspective.
1) A "nice guy" is not a doormat. For all of you "self-proclaimed" nice guys that call yourselves "nice guys" JUST because you haven't had a lot of experience with women or you fear rejection like you fear catching Swine Flu...you can't just call yourself "nice" because you humble yourself out of lack of confidence rather than your internal respect for the woman you are interested in. I could probably name about 20 guys right now that are selfish and self-serving as hell but would humble themselves for a woman they find attractive off of the sole fact that they lack self-confidence and would step out of character in order to meet her approval.
2) There are PLENTY of women that are aloof, misguided and wouldn't know a "nice guy" from a statue of George W. Bush. Some women fail to get in touch with herself long enough to know what type of guy she is dealing with in the first place. So yes, THESE WOMEN may be more likely to fancy a guy who would dropkick her down a flight of steps with a straight face. (I know that was violent but I'm just sayin')
3) I'm not trying to further damage the confidence of a guy who has issues with approaching or maintaining a connection with a woman. Really I'm just trying to take away from the DENIAL a guy may have about his lack of lady action. WOMEN WANT CONFIDENCE...NOT A DOUCHEBAG. (Pardon the expression...again...i'm just sayin').
AGAIN....REAL WOMEN WANT A MAN THAT CAN STAND UP FOR HER AND HIMSELF. A MAN THAT IS AWARE OF HIMSELF AND KNOWS WHO HE IS AND MORE IMPORTANTLY...WHAT HE WANTS. THE PROBLEM WITH "JERKS" ARE THAT THEY DISPLAY A FALSE SENSE OF CONFIDENCE. THEN, WOMEN THAT ARE EVEN LESS CONFIDENT ACCEPT THEIR BEHAVIOR AND THRIVE OFF OF THE ENDLESS CHALLENGE OF GETTING ALONG WITH A GUY WHO ALREADY HAS AN INTERNAL STRUGGLE AND THEN IT SHINES THROUGH WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP...OR BETTER YET FOR LACK OF A BETTER EXPRESSION: EVERYBODY'S ALL JACKED UP.
BUT BACK TO THE SELF-PROCLAIMED "NICE GUY", JUST THINK ABOUT IT. IF A NON-CONFIDENT GUY SUDDENLY DEVELOPED SOME SWAG (GOSH I WISH THAT WORD SWAG WOULD DIE) WOULD HE STILL BE THE SAME PERSON THAT PUT A LADY ON A PEDESTAL?
~~~ DOODLEBUG SHRUG ~~~
