A lot of you don't understand each other. And more importantly, you don't understand that everyone has a LOVE LANGUAGE that is a part of their personality. I believe that lots of people bump heads and have a hard time in their relationships when they're not tuned into this information about who they're with.
So, what's a LOVE LANGUAGE?
Some of you might know already and I've talked about this before, but that's the beautiful thing about having your own blog. You can say whatever the f---, sh--, hell, damn you want!!! And say it over and over again, chop and screw that bish and scramble it up with a side of turkey bacon because red meat is too fattening. (Smells so good tho...damn I'm hungry.)
Anywhoo...
There are FIVE LANGUAGES...
Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.*
Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.*
This means giving someone your undivided attention.
Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.*
Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.*
Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.*
(Love language summaries courtesy of personalitycafe.com) TAKE THE QUIZ HERE
My personal love language is physical touch and quality time. I feel the most loved when I'm experiencing these things.
Many of our issues with another person comes from misunderstanding where they're coming from or what they're thinking. Sometimes they don't know how to communicate it, but if you realize what makes them feel special or important, it could go a long way in strengthening the integrity of your relationship.
