Ma$e the Rapper/Pastor/"I'm Back, but Not Really" Has Been Making Bank Faking "Happy"

Mase, the former Diddy sidekick (back in the "Puffy" days) has been making some pretty good money off of being a devoted hubby to his wife, Twyla selling marriage books, and throwing events based around their relationship.

The only problem is that according to TMZ, Mase and his wife have been playing a little game of, "Who can fool the public the BEST?"

Mase filed for legal separation, then Twyla followed up with filing herself, and then Mase filed for a full out divorce earlier this year.   In legal documents that TMZ allegedly discovered on Mase, the separation documents were filed back in May of 2012 - aka, 2 YEARS AGO.

So in the meantime, Mase and Twyla have publicly been the "stand up couple", using their marriage as a means to rack up from people who are investing in their advice.

The hustle is real, huh?

Honestly it doesn't surprise me.  We don't like real sh__ any more anyway right?  I would have respected them more if they had just been real about their problems to earn a dollar, but it resembles a lot of activity (IMO) with certain members of various places of worship.  Instead of building a following off of being honest, people often elect to be looked up to and create an unrealistic facade where they are "strong enough" to withstand the temptations of the flesh.  I'm not in any way trying to disrespect the church, but this is why nurture my personal relationship with GOD.  I often find people that get in the mix of churches so deep that they start to prioritize expectations of other members over their own belief systems and walk with GOD.

Anywhoo...it would be nice if this wasn't true, but damn homie, can't you find a hustle you're actually good at?!  (Thinks to self: That was mean).  #ShrugLife

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Who Had The Best ESSENCE Cover??? (PICK ONE!!!)

SO....WHAT DO YOU THINK???  WHO DID IT BEST?!!!

“I’m my own stylist and I love it, but I am not trying to make a statement,” - E. Badu 

“Although I’m known for my long, colorful locs, I still don’t take my hair too 

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seriously,” says Ledisi, who is loving life with a new album called “The Truth.” “I 

experiment a lot, dyeing it and constantly switching styles to grab attention. My hair

is one of my best accessories and changing it helps express who I am.” - Ledisi

“We all have the option of how we want to express ourselves through our

life, hair, style or whatever we decide. We shouldn’t be pigeonholed into

any one category,” - Solange 

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I'm Not Your Side-ANYTHING A**hole!

It irks my soul to no imaginable end when a person who is SPOKEN FOR entertains conversation, and people as if they were single, then has the nerve to subliminally post things about home wreckers and the like.

For example, I get a message from someone talking to me as if they could possibly be interested in me and I entertain the convo - only to see after checking out their profile that they are very much MARRIED or in a relationship.  AND THEN TO ADD INSULT TO INJURY...they post something on Facebook or Instagram pertaining to women who love to come after men who are spoken for.  What the HELL?!

I am willing to put my earnings on the fact that there are tons of women who lack the integrity of dismissing a spoken for man, but when I personally see how this shit is almost always a TWO-SIDED situation with BOTH PARTIES PARTICIPATING and then the majority of the judgment from society is placed back on the female, I have a really hard time with this.

First of all, you BOTH are assholes for being selfish and for doing crap that you wouldn't want done to you, but then to be so ignorant as to pointing fingers on others like they were in the charade alone or better yet, to paint a picture like most women would go for a taken man is absolutely ridiculous and disrespectful.

PLEASE ACCEPT MY FRENCH WHEN I SAY....FUCK YOU.

I don't condone being deceitful in a committed relationship - it's one thing if your relationship is open (which some are) and/or you keep it 100 about what your life consists of.  I can respect that ALL DAY over some asshole that tries to glorify the "side pieces" of the world only to entertain them that much more.  And furthermore, I believe many people in relationships who talk about it in the first place probably have some or want some.

The whole "side piece" situation is another thing black folks created in society in terms of making it a "thing" (or popular) in order to provide yet another way for us to tear each other down and talk shit basically.  Side joints can't exist without some asshole making them who they are. So who's really the jerk?

And I'll definitely go on the record for saying that I (like probably many women) have never been a side ANYTHING unless he had a secret life and had some powerful ninja tactics when it came to being everywhere at once.

We need to stop making dumb concepts like this household talk.  Seriously.  We are better than this, and should be tired of tearing down a society just because of a group of people who lack standards.  ((waves church fan real fast))

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Chad Ochocinco Says He Still Loves Evelyn Lozada

Chad Ochocinco recently spoke to Peter Bailey for NiteCap about his ex-wife Evelyn Lozada who just gave birth to a baby boy with Carl Crawford of the LA Dodgers and spoke of his undying love that is still present for her:

“Love don’t go nowhere like that. I will always love her. Matter of fact, I love every goddamn body to an extent. It ain’t going no where. I got to know another Evelyn besides what everybody else knew. I don’t care how she operate. I don’t care what it looked like to society. I don’t care how it all played itself out. I don’t care the fact that she’s moved on. I love that being.”

“Discipline, I lack it. Dealing with one woman…it didn’t have anything to do with South Beach or living in Miami. I don’t care how fine you are..for every fine woman you see there’s a dude who’s tired of that same woman. Human nature is undefeated. What I’ve always done, even in past relationship, was tell the truth from jump. I never lied. Why sell you a dream? There are men out there that are willing to give their all and have the discipline to be able to give them that story book ending, that fairytale as I so call it. I think I’m good for that for about a good 6 months but at some point I don’t care how fine you are, I’m going to lose interest.”

I'm very indifferent about his statements honestly.  Reason being, I understand that Ochocinco (like most other wealthy men) have an array of women to choose from on a regular basis so the thought of committing to only one for a monogamous relationship probably sounds silly.  But in my opinion, these situations are very one-sided and my thing is, why marry if you know you're about that life?  

What's the point of exchanging vows if the commitment isn't strong enough for you to at least want to try to have the type of dedication you would expect out of her?

I can't really fault him completely though because he said he honestly told her what time it was. But even when I was much younger and I had friends/peers of mine who married at a very early age (18, 19, etc.) I never (personally) felt the need to get married to prove anything.  Not that I felt my friends did that, but you know how some friends try to act like each other.  I had a boyfriend, but I wasn't about to act like I was joining the newlywed club when I barely knew what I was doing as a girlfriend back then.

At some point, common sense of knowing who you're dealing with has to kick in.  It's one thing if someone is specifically telling you that it's okay to mess around, but I believe that most people (even open minded ones who let their mate step out) will flip script the second they feel they are being short-changed by that situation in any way.  

They were a good looking couple too.  But LAWD, one of the messiest.

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Ask La Doodlebug: He Doesn't Want Our Relationship on Social Media...PERIOD.

Question from a loved READER....

"What would you say about two people who are having a growing relationship together, however, one person wants to share information about the relationship but the other wants to keep everything private?

Like, if one person wants to take pictures and post on IG, FB, or Twitter, wants to hold hands or kiss in public, wants to tell their friends about whats going on, but the other doesn't want to share any of that because they feel its simply none of their business."

MY ANSWER: 

I feel like, part of it depends upon the length and nature of the relationship.  If the two people made an exclusive commitment to one another, I find it strange that one person would be so private that they can't even show any PDA (Public Displays of Affection) to their partner.  Social media can be a touchy subject for people and everyone treats it differently, so I won't hold the privacy levels against them because it could be a comfort level type of thing.

However, this would be a sign for me (if I was in this situation) to keep my eyes open.  Not be overly suspicious or create ideas in my mind, (some people are entirely too good at that) but to just know that it could be a sign of wanting to live in two different worlds.  A person (male or female) who is living in two different worlds will always have other signs present to back up the initial sign. Most of the time, we just have to pay attention and not be in denial about things. 

For certain people, it does take time for them to transition into the mentality of being committed to another person (privately and publicly) so even if they are trying to ease into that, the best thing to do would be to try and open a dialog about it.  Communication can solve so many things when two mature adults make the effort to get on the same page.  Everyone should attempt to do this with their armor OFF, with a clear mind and an open heart.

Hope this helps some!  xoxoxoxoxo

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Zodiac ROLL CALL!!!....Who is THE ONE FOR YOU?! (#HappyHumpDay)

(YOU'RE NOT AN 80'S BABY IF YOU DON'T KNOW CHUCK WOOLERY!!!)

For the people that take themselves too seriously and think the zodiac is evil, just skip this post and come back to the next one ((rolls eyes)).

But for those who might be a little interested, I wanted to compile a list of all the signs and show what is allegedly the BEST for you and also who is the WORST.  YES...I'm speaking for the romance side.

LIKE TA' HEAR IT?!  HERE IT GOES!!!

ARIES (March 21st - April 20th)

Perfect Partners:	Leo, Sagittarius
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Gemini, Aquarius
Like Minded Souls:	Aries
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Virgo, Scorpio
Learn From Your Differences:	Pisces, Taurus
Not Your Destiny:	Cancer, Capricorn
Astrological Hell:	Libra

TAURUS (April 20th - May 20th)

Perfect Partners:	Virgo, Capricorn
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Cancer, Pisces
Like Minded Souls:	Taurus
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Libra, Sagittarius
Learn From Your Differences:	Aries, Gemini
Not Your Destiny:	Leo, Aquarius
Astrological Hell:	Scorpio

GEMINI (May 21st - June 21st)

Perfect Partners:	Libra, Aquarius
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Aries, Leo
Like Minded Souls:	Gemini
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Scorpio, Capricorn
Learn From Your Differences:	Taurus, Cancer
Not Your Destiny:	Virgo, Pisces
Astrological Hell:	Sagittarius

CANCER (Jun 22nd - Jul 23rd) Perfect Partners:	Scorpio, Pisces
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Taurus, Virgo
Like Minded Souls:	Cancer
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Sagittarius, Aquarius
Learn From Your Differences:	Gemini, Leo
Not Your Destiny:	Aries, Libra
Astrological Hell:	Capricorn

LEO (July 24th - August 23rd)

Perfect Partners:	Aries, Sagittarius
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Gemini, Libra
Like Minded Souls:	Leo
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Capricorn, Pisces
Learn From Your Differences:	Cancer, Virgo
Not Your Destiny:	Scorpio, Taurus
Astrological Hell:	Aquarius

VIRGO (Aug 24th - Sept 22nd)

Perfect Partners:	Taurus, Capricorn
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Cancer, Scorpio
Like Minded Souls:	Virgo
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Aries, Aquarius
Learn From Your Differences:	Leo, Libra
Not Your Destiny:	Gemini, Sagittarius
Astrological Hell:	Pisces

LIBRA (Sept 23rd - Oct 22nd)

Perfect Partners:	Gemini, Aquarius
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Leo, Sagittarius
Like Minded Souls:	Libra
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Taurus, Pisces
Learn From Your Differences:	Virgo, Scorpio
Not Your Destiny:	Cancer, Capricorn
Astrological Hell:	Aries

SCORPIO (Oct 23rd - Nov 22nd)

Perfect Partners:	Cancer, Pisces
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Virgo, Capricorn
Like Minded Souls:	Scorpio
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Aries, Gemini
Learn From Your Differences:	Libra, Sagittarius
Not Your Destiny:	Leo, Aquarius
Astrological Hell:	Taurus

SAGITTARIUS (Nov 23rd - Dec 20th)

Perfect Partners:	Aries, Leo
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Libra, Aquarius
Like Minded Souls:	Sagittarius
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Taurus, Cancer
Learn From Your Differences:	Scorpio, Capricorn
Not Your Destiny:	Virgo, Pisces
Astrological Hell:	Gemini

CAPRICORN (Dec 22nd - Jan 20th)

Perfect Partners:	Taurus, Virgo
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Scorpio, Pisces
Like Minded Souls:	Capricorn
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Gemini, Leo
Learn From Your Differences:	Sagittarius, Aquarius
Not Your Destiny:	Aries, Libra
Astrological Hell:	Cancer

AQUARIUS (Jan 21st - Feb 19th)

Perfect Partners:	Gemini, Libra
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Aries, Sagittarius
Like Minded Souls:	Aquarius
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Cancer, Virgo
Learn From Your Differences:	Capricorn, Pisces
Not Your Destiny:	Taurus, Scorpio
Astrological Hell:	Leo

PISCES (Feb 20th - Mar 20th)

Perfect Partners:	Cancer, Scorpio
Nearly Perfect Partners:	Taurus, Capricorn
Like Minded Souls:	Pisces
Opposites You're Attracted To:	Leo, Libra
Learn From Your Differences:	Aries, Aquarius
Not Your Destiny:	Gemini, Sagittarius
Astrological Hell:	Virgo

(Zodiac Information courtesy of CafeAstrology.com)

That's so weird...it says that Gemini and Virgos aren't for one another, but my parents are going on 33 years of marriage.  Oh welp!  LMAOOOO...

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And to Add To the Jail Love...Love And Hip Personality Bails Fiancee' out for 200k

Now that's love damn it.

So on top of Chris Breeze talking from jail to his boo boo Karreuche, it turns out that Love and Hip Hop ladybug Yandy Smith just bailed out her fiancee' Mendeecees Harris from prison for $200,000.  The judge posted bail at 600k.

Mendeecees Harris got busted back in January 2013 for his alleged involvement in a heroin and cocaine drug ring. He's been in Federal custody -- most recently in a Rochester, NY jail -- ever since his arrest. (TMZ.com)

Mendeecees is facing a sentence of about 5 to 7 years if convicted for this crime.  How far would you go as a better half to be with your loved one in this situation?  Would you pay the money even if you knew there was a chance he would be put away?

 Honestly, I know a love like that.  I do.  I ain't mad Yandy.  Love makes life worth living.

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Chris Brown Calling Karreuche from Jail: Can Love Outlast A Long Jail Sentence?

Karreuche Tran, Chris Brown's ex-girlfriend was all smiles during a call from him in prison to give a message to the fans and to also express appreciation to his former beau.  
(check out the video)

“Just calling all my fans — Letting y’all know I love yall. Thank y’all for all the support. Thank you for everything.  The new video just came out so I hope y’all enjoy that & most importantly Kae, Karrueche — I love you. So thank you”

You could tell she was happy to hear from him (the blush situation was real) but it had me thinking about incarcerated love.

At what point is "too long" when it comes to waiting for a significant other to come out of jail and remain loyal to them while they're doing their time?

I know Chris Brown is doing a very minimal sentence (one whole month) but when it comes to relationships in general, would you say the cliche' term, "the judge broke us up" applies when it comes to longer-term prison/jail time?

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LGBT Community...Help Me Understand How This Works. Who Knows Amiyah Scott the Transgender Woman?

For about a year, I've been following a woman named Amiyah Scott on Instagram.  Some of you guys might already know who she is but for those who don't, she is an infamous personality in the social media world who has been a Transgender woman (born a male and surgically changed to female) for several years now.

Here she is right here:

Like, she's gorgeous.  And honestly speaking, I was really intrigued by her because ever since I was a kid, I have never come across a transsexual who looked THAT CONVINCING AS A DAMN WOMAN.  Like....LOOK AT THIS CHICK!!!!   So on top of her constant beauty postings of hair, makeup, and clothing, her lifestyle was intriguing to me (much like her other thousands of Instagram followers.

But that isn't the reason I'm talking about her.  She recently broke up with her boyfriend that she had a very public relationship with - his name is Micah.  Micah is 20 years old while Amiyah (born Arthur) is 26.  At first, I was really confused because I was curious of Micah's sexual orientation.  He was FULLY AWARE of her sex change so would it be safe to say that he was gay?  I wasn't so sure.  Before he hooked up with Amiyah, he had tons of pics of another girl on his Instagram (the girl is actually a natural female) that passed away some time ago.  He looked pretty cozy with the girl in some of his photos (like that could have been his girl) so it made me even more confused as to whether a heterosexual man would date a transgender woman.

(Amiyah Scott pictured with ex-boyfriend, Micah)

Anywhoo...that whole question was answered after their breakup when he did an interview telling the guy who asked the questions that he identified himself as a GAY MALE.  So, okay...now I got my answer, but the thing I need help understanding (and I really want someone to explain this to me because I'm very curious about it) is why would a gay male date someone who changed himself into a female if he really wants to be with a male?  Is there a non-physical part of being gay that I am not understanding in terms of attraction and mating?  I really want to understand this one because I've always wondered that about feminine women who date "dom" women that resemble men.  If you link up with the person who looks like a guy, why wouldn't you just date a guy?  I'm not suggesting, or judging by any means.  I have a ton of people I hold very dear to my heart that are homosexual.  It's not my place to speak against someone else's private life and decisions that have nothing to do with me.  But I do want to understand, so help the kid out.

Can someone explain it to me?!

 (Amiyah with Amber Rose before the Shiny Bald persona) 

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WTF 2 Chainz?! (I went in, ya'll have to forgive me)

I was following the story of a girl who is allegedly suing rapper 2Chainz for releasing a YouTube video of her backstage called, #IsThisYourTHOT?  For people who aren't familiar with the term "THOT" (I know I lost brain cells when I initially heard this term), it means That Hoe Over There.

So apparently the story is that the girl (named Tina) snuck backstage and lied to security saying that she had been invited by Cap1 (2Chainz' friend) that she allegedly met on Instagram.

The footage shows her backstage sitting and was called over by 2Chainz to not only find out who sent for her, but to check her body out as if that would determine her likelihood of remaining back there.

WATCH THE VIDEO:



So, okay...after this video was made and was made viral via YouTube and Twitter, she decided to fight back for public humiliation.  Now, she does seem to be excited about the possibility of showing up on a blog and also shouted out her Instagram name, but clearly you can see in the video before being sent away that she didn't realize she was the butt of everyone's joke.

A second Instagram was created after all of this that Tina claims was phony because if that new instagram account was real, it definitely painted the picture of a girl who wanted publicity however she could get it.

Her original Instagram does show her in a light where she seems to be on possible groupie status, but her behavior in the video that ultimately caused this whole situation doesn't show me anything other than a girl wanting to be in the mix.

((LONG DEEP SIGH BECAUSE I'M ABOUT TO GIVE MY 85 CENTS THAT YOU MIGHT NOT AGREE WITH))

First of all damn it, I saw a lot of comments about this topic where many women were saying that girls like her are the reason why men write such degrading lyrics about females.  ((Record scratch sound))  The FU__ did you just say?!?!

Let's look at the facts: She was called over by 2Chainz and questioned about who sent for her. She complied with his request for her to turn around so they could see her body - she was CLEARLY CONFUSED AND OUTNUMBERED.  Anyone who says this chick was acting like a groupie in that video is lying because most groupies have no shame about going after someone in their radar. This chick (although probably no saint whatsoever) looked like a FAN that was happy to be backstage like anyone else would.

Who the hell wouldn't be happy to get backstage to see an artist they like?  This is my main problem though.

BLACK PEOPLE ARE THE ONLY MOFOS IN THE WORLD OF LIFE AND HUMANITY (YES I'M BEING DRAMATIC) THAT DO SHIT LIKE THIS TO ONE ANOTHER!!!

You catch rock stars and they all have groupies, but they damn sure don't make their disrespect of another person as a human being FRONT AND CENTER of their whole act.  THEN to add insult to injury, you have OTHER WOMEN backing this ignorant shit up!  How many chicks do you see stripping and bouncing their asses everyday with these monster looking creatures and you're more appauled at the FAN who probably DID get a message from one of his entourage members to come thru at the concert?!  Really???

What if she was your mom or sister?  Would it still be funny then?  Would she still be a hoe then? It's all fun and games until it becomes a person you know or better yet, YOU.  Nothing in that video showed me a chick that voluntarily wanted to be made an ass out of.  Some broad sitting down laughing in the back at this girl looking like Izma from The Emperor's New Groove.

I'm tired of black people being so divisive towards one another and pointing fingers when EVERYONE should be held accountable for their actions.  I'm not saying some women don't put themselves in a position to be talked about, but this girl right here was bullied, point blank and 2Chainz should be ashamed of himself.  He has a daughter.  What if someone did that to her and she might have just been going backstage to possibly get in the "mix"?

How many people take pics with celebs and break their damn necks to post the shit on social media?  Don't worry, I'll wait.  She probably wanted pics, wanted connections for whatever but she represents MILLIONS OF OTHER PEOPLE (MALES AND FEMALES) that would have done the same damn thing by being back there to see what would happen.

I had to go in because I don't think most Black folks understand how ignorant stuff like this is and how WE ARE OUR OWN WORST ENEMIES!!!!  What did Kevin Hart say on "Laugh At My Pain" about him and his kids...(might have been his "Seriously Funny" show) but he said, "We looked bad as a UNIT".

And that's US.  We look AWFUL as a unit because we truly hate each other.  Whether it was from early days of growing up rough, being catty towards other women, insecure that someone else will outshine, or whatever the situation, WE ARE FULFILLING THE WILLIE LYNCH THEORY PERFECTLY.  2Chainz, you are like 40 you wrinkled bastard, this girl is damn near young enough to be your child or at least your niece.

Yes, I believe I'm done now.  Now I need some more Starbucks and a damn hug.

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