ARE NICE GUYS "NICE" BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO BE??? (PART 2)

I got some really interesting feedback about this topic and I wanted to elaborate on it more AND clarify a few things if I may (clears throat).

Most of the people who I talked to about this wanted to place emphasis on the female mentality by saying that women do NOT respond well to the men that have more "gentleman-like" qualities and sadly enough...men that are classified as "nice guys" do not get as many romantic opportunities as the arrogant and "not-so-nice" men.

Well...1st and foremost...if you refer back to my last post...I do tap into that assumption a little, but it wasn't my main argument.

My last post was more about the MALE MENTALITY and the fact that men who lack confidence often use the argument of women not liking "nice guys" as a cop-out to cover up their own deficiencies. That's what I was trying to say because I personally know guys like that. Some older than me sadly enough.

Now back to the LADYBUGS and their confused behinds. Now many of the people that I talked to about this had a consensus that women are very confused about the type of man they actually want. Meaning many women SAY they want a "nice guy" but when they get one...they either don't know what to do with him, or they dismiss him for a jerk.

THIS IS A QUOTE FROM ONE OF THE READERS IN THE LAST POST THAT GAVE FEEBACK ~~~~

"the definition of "nice guy" changes with the maturity of the women defining it."

SOUNDS LIKE A REAL STATEMENT IF YOU ASK ME. But then, another reader made the point that, "even women that seem to have it more "together" (responsible, etc.) still fall in this category".

I agree with both statements, but I think my angle on it is far from typical.

First of all, there are many women who have grown up watching their mothers or guardians entertain disrespectful men and had to make sense out of what was happening all on their own. I would imagine in that type of household that abuse may not have been discussed, or maybe the, "do as I say, not as I do" rule may have been in effect. Broken homes period are very representative of many homes today.

But why???

Well, I would definitely say that there is a HUGE issue with women and their standards (or lack thereof). Back in the day, women didn't have a voice - they had more of a place, and I would argue that in many households it was passed down to be in a submissive frame of mind. But I believe over time, that submissive mindset began to get mixed in with bitterness and anger because of people (or men) abusing that dynamic.

The concept of family began to change from traditional to extended to blended to broken and then to reality show celebrities who have no talent. (I know that was random...my bad.) But my point is...it's easy to say that women don't know what they want. And it's TRUE...many women DON'T. But somewhere along the line I believe the mentalities of certain women began to take a turn for the worse in an effort to cope with ways they were treated, what they grew up with, or maybe were exposed to.

I'm not saying it's a man's fault. I think it's a cycle that's been a sad reality for many, many, many years . But if you're going to measure a person for their faults...you should open your minds more and pull out a calculator. Yeah I mean, with all of these females that are broadcasting every bodily attribute other than their minds nowadays, not to mention the women that accept being "the other woman" or the "side-piece", it's easy to blame them for having no standards.

But where did it all come from?

Are all of these women just greedy for shallow attention and gratification from a man, preferably a egotistical man-whore or does she have a story? Is she hurt? Did she learn the ignorance?

I'm definitely not trying to justify women having weak standards, but sometimes you should remember a person like that could be your family member or best friend.

IT'S ALL ABOUT YOUR MENTALITY....LOOK AT THIS. (YEAH IT'S "OLD SCHOOL" TIME SNITCHES. SOME PEOPLE NEEDED A GRANDMA LIKE THIS.)

(SHOW CLIP OF RAISIN IN THE SUN)

(Yeah...I know it's an old old old clip...but somebody needs to embed this mindset back into the world. The moral of my rant is in this clip and it should make you look deeper than the surface of many misguided women in the world. Even the "nicest" of guys wrongfully judge sometimes.)


MIND FOOD VIA THE MARLEY MAN ~~~~~~ CALLED "JUDGE NOT"


"Don't you look at me so smug
And say I'm going bad.
Who are you to judge me
And the life that I live?
I know that I'm not perfect
And that I don't claim to be.
So before you point your fingers,
Be sure your hands are clean."  - BOB MARLEY

(SHOW CLIP OF BOB MARLEY SONG)

~~~~~~ HOPE I FED YOU SUFFICIENTLY ~~~~~