So I got a reply from @TeamLashontae on Twitter about what I said in my blog when it comes to the whole Love Triangle, Square, situation where Tae is now dating Teyana Taylor's ex-fiancee.
I was asked if I would judge the situation the same way if it were between two guys and one girl?
I felt like that was a fair question but the thing is, in society black women have always been judged harshly. I'll illustrate an example:
Men often complain about women who will take free dinners, outings, etc. in spite of having no romantic interest. Messed up right? The woman is blamed in society for this.
Then, you have a woman who is constantly being dogged out by a man and treated poorly that she continues to invest time and energy into. She is also blamed for this because she should set her bar higher and demand better behavior, or move on.
BOTH scenarios are dealing with someone being taken advantage of but somehow, the emphasis of the blame is placed more on the woman in both situations. The double-standard out here in these streets is REAL.
Personally, I believe BOTH sexes should be responsible for making a conscious judgment of who gets their time and effort based on actions. If someone isn't reciprocating behavior you feel you are showing them, then it's time to let it go or just do you and stop complaining.
So back to the question I got about whether I would look at the situation differently, I have to say I WOULD. But not on purpose. I think I'm conditioned to believe that men get away with doing more things like this (especially in Hollywood, the "industry", whatever you want to call it). It doesn't make it any less messed up though.
Point blank, most people do things not considering how they would feel if it was done to them. On the outside looking in, it definitely seems that way. Lashontae is gorgeous so I can imagine that she deals with her selection of many approaching her and with that daily struggle, being moral about things probably gets lost in the shuffle of living her life.
Feel free to add/subtract to what I'm saying though. Any thoughts on this?
