Especially other women.
How dare you take another woman's situation and act as if you understand what it feels like to be helpless and torn between your fear, your love and choices?
This isn't directed to any one person. This was inspired by Housewives of Atlanta star, Porsha Stewart because she made allegations on air that her ex-husband, Kordell Stewart, former Quarterback of the Pittsburgh Steelers was abusive during their marriage.
Whether she was lying or not isn't my concern because who knows what happened? We don't. People will speculate and judge on either side.
My stance is the fact that it is easy to tell someone else what they need to do when you don't have to make the hard judgment of altering the course of your life. This is why I laugh at unattached people who always talk about how emotional someone who IS attached is acting when they can't even relate to the person.
There is a COMPLETELY different mindset involved when you co-exist with a person on an intimate level. Especially when years, family, property, and memories are involved.
This era of people who are so quick to throw each other away (at least publicly) is so full of shit, it makes me want to gag. All this "I don't care" crap is like the delinquent child crying out for help and attention.
A battered woman isn't someone who wants to be hurt. She's not asking to be mistreated. She probably isn't even stupid. She's afraid. She's torn between her better judgment and her courage to demand more of her life. She needs support.
So many Black people don't know the true meaning of the word, "support". There's a BIG difference between being supportive versus enabling. Encouragement rather than condescension. I don't know a time where a person being condescending worked out for anyone's benefit honestly. But so many people and their "high horses" want to cluck and bark about some shit they don't know anything about.
So yeah, just like some of you judge those women, I'M JUDGING YOU. BASTARDS.
