Message To People Who Judge Battered Women (RANT)

Especially other women.

How dare you take another woman's situation and act as if you understand what it feels like to be helpless and torn between your fear, your love and choices?

This isn't directed to any one person.  This was inspired by Housewives of Atlanta star, Porsha Stewart because she made allegations on air that her ex-husband, Kordell Stewart, former Quarterback of the Pittsburgh Steelers was abusive during their marriage.

Whether she was lying or not isn't my concern because who knows what happened?  We don't. People will speculate and judge on either side.

My stance is the fact that it is easy to tell someone else what they need to do when you don't have to make the hard judgment of altering the course of your life.  This is why I laugh at unattached people who always talk about how emotional someone who IS attached is acting when they can't even relate to the person.

There is a COMPLETELY different mindset involved when you co-exist with a person on an intimate level.  Especially when years, family, property, and memories are involved.

This era of people who are so quick to throw each other away (at least publicly) is so full of shit, it makes me want to gag.  All this "I don't care" crap is like the delinquent child crying out for help and attention.

A battered woman isn't someone who wants to be hurt.  She's not asking to be mistreated.  She probably isn't even stupid.  She's afraid.  She's torn between her better judgment and her courage to demand more of her life.  She needs support.

So many Black people don't know the true meaning of the word, "support".  There's a BIG difference between being supportive versus enabling.  Encouragement rather than condescension.   I don't know a time where a person being condescending worked out for anyone's benefit honestly.  But so many people and their "high horses" want to cluck and bark about some shit they don't know anything about.

So yeah, just like some of you judge those women, I'M JUDGING YOU.  BASTARDS.

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Hey Side Piece Police, Kerry Washington HAS AN ACTUAL HUBBY!!! (I Need To Vent)

TAKE THAT SIDE PIECE HECKLERS...

Kerry Washington and her husband look pretty happy together at the Vanity Fair Oscar Party.  Just like all the other actresses who are allowed to do their job, collect a pay check, then go home to their real lives.

Oh, and on top of all the people who tried to diminish Lupita Nyong'o and the Oscar she won for playing a slave, allow me to show you a collage of the black folk who all HAVE NOT PLAYED demeaning roles to achieve their awards:

I swear if some self-righteous Black folks used 10% of their brain, they'd be dangerous.  In no way am I saying that Denzel in "Training Day" or Halle in "Monster's Ball" wasn't criticize-worthy.  Outrage worthy for that matter, but the problem comes when we don't understand how to PROGRESSIVELY build up a torn community.

We are so quick to ridicule, judge, label and dismiss something when we don't look at the entire picture. For all the people that preach about the neglect of the "black family", do you ever stop to think what your "side-chick" comments do within society?  IT GIVES THE TERM LIFE AND SUBSTANCE. It's become a "thing" to say and to be.  It's been accepted as ACCEPTABLE.

Psychologically, when we openly dismiss something, we promote it in our minds at the same time.

Also, have we stopped to think that half the people who complain that the Clair Huxtables of the world are growing extinct REFUSE TO BE CLIFF!!!  Who the hell is Clair being Clair Huxtable to nowadays anyway?  Since there are so many upstanding men that have nothing at all to do with that 70% single Black woman statistic.  Nope, it's all her fault.  Too much WorldStar and twerk sessions. Oh, and she's too attitudinal about being judged out in the world and not being protected.  Yep, that's it.

People are more outraged by the effect than the cause.  And I wonder why?  It's the same principle of why a man can be hit by a woman and she's "not as wrong" as a man who hit a woman.

Life's so unfair, huh?

And I am passionate about this because I'm tired of seeing the lack of accountability within our community.  From BOTH sexes.  From intimate experiences to subliminal ones.  We are truly our own worst enemy when it comes to our stance, and I blame more uppity black folks than ghetto ones because you have had more of the foundation to influence good, but choose to stick your noses up toward things that you should be wise enough to see ARE BIGGER THAN THE PERSON WHO IS MAKING THE OFFENSE.

And I really don't care about being labeled "cynical" or whatever people love to say about a Black woman who has anything to debate about.

My color already stamps me with societal judgment and mostly by my own damn people.

WILLIE F**KING LYNCH FOR THE WIN.

((goes to cool off...I got my pressure up on this one))

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