I've been amazed at the women I've encountered in the recent past that have a very high tolerance for a guy treating them like a "maybe" or a "Plan Z".
I was reading an article that talked about 10 traits that men look for in a mate and one of them was a woman that doesn't take crap from anyone. Meaning that her tolerance level for being mistreated or taken for granted is non-existent.
Often what I see happening is a woman's BARK being worse than her BITE - not that I'm trying to compare my beautiful ladybugs to a dog, but you know what I'm saying.
And if you don't know what I'm saying...I mean that as females who get emotional pretty easily, many women vent and try to release those feelings through argument, yelling, or some type of emotionally charged behavior. BUT...doing all of that does not mean you don't tolerate being mistreated. It might prove you have a problem with it, but fussing about it and then having make up sex 3 hours later is hardly putting your foot down to someone that you might want a future with. On the contrast, it actually puts you in a position to be taken less and less serious.
Establishing clear standards of what you expect in a relationship is SO VITAL for anyone who wants to be in a healthy relationship. But more than this, you need to make sure you LIVE BY IT TOO.
Living by it does not mean venting to your girlfriends, getting them all amp'd up and trying to find blunt objects for your man's forehead on Monday and then you're back in "Lovey Dovey" mode by Wednesday with your girls still in Tyson mode.
Men like women with DEFINITION. Period. Point blank. If you are "blahhhh...whatever" about what he does and what you want...he will be too.
Chivalry and respect go hand in hand. And YES...some guys will never totally grasp the concept of what it means to show respect and favor of that kind to a woman...but that's when you block that Troll (yes I said Troll) off your Facebook...Skype...Twitter...Face to Face and pager if you're old school like that.
