I'm tired of chicks that let their friends walk out the
house looking set the hell up. Yeah y'all.
I remember it was Summer of 2007. I was ready to get my single lady dance on with my sorority sister. She came to my apartment and I was still trying to get ready so we could go party together. I went into my room and came out with a pair of plaid short shorts (booty shorts cut) with heels and a dress shirt. The shorts were very much in style at that particular time.
The second I stepped foot into the living room, my friend had this look of shock on her face as her eyes were darted at my shorts. Then she asked me, "Are you really leaving out of the house like that?" I was puzzled by that question and asked her why she would ask me that. She plainly said, "You want "THAT" kind of attention wearing those shorts out here? Your thighs are RIDICULOUS!"
So I decided to double-take myself in the full-body mirror and see if I saw what she saw. I really didn't think that I was about to draw that much attention to myself but the fact was that my friend made me aware of something I didn't see on my own.
I kept looking...then I noticed how I looked in movement - bending over and all kinds of fun stuff like that. Then I pumped my brakes and changed. I really didn't want that kind of attention. Being appreciated for my appearance was one thing, but being considered fresh pickings in the "take home" category wasn't quite what I was going for.
Some people might say that she just didn't want me to shine brighter than her or be sexier than her...but usually those people are a walking contradiction or obviously insecure. She was neither of the two and for good reason. No homo, but my friend is HOT.
This is something that I find to be more of a rare quality in friends these days - especially with women. For some reason, there seems to be an epidemic of relationships that are filled with non-genuine behavior. "Friends" not truly taking the best interest of each other and playing subliminal competitive games rather than backing one another up.
Now, for some people, friendships take a backseat to family life (especially if you're married) but some people consider their friends to be their "family". And regardless of either situation, it is still important about the company you keep because some friends are more lethal than people you've identified as an enemy.
And my reason is this: Any person that you entrust confidential information to should be worthy of it. Any person that would let a alien-shaped crater hang out of your nose because she secretly wants to demote your appearance is insecure and has let that outweigh their devotion to being a true friend to you. Be watchful of these individuals.
People and their insecurities will always cripple themselves, but also whomever they spend their time and energy on. They are draining and really, it's not about abandoning these people, but understanding where they are and what role you will take in their lives, if any.
Choose your circle of trust wisely kids...
I remember it was Summer of 2007. I was ready to get my single lady dance on with my sorority sister. She came to my apartment and I was still trying to get ready so we could go party together. I went into my room and came out with a pair of plaid short shorts (booty shorts cut) with heels and a dress shirt. The shorts were very much in style at that particular time.
The second I stepped foot into the living room, my friend had this look of shock on her face as her eyes were darted at my shorts. Then she asked me, "Are you really leaving out of the house like that?" I was puzzled by that question and asked her why she would ask me that. She plainly said, "You want "THAT" kind of attention wearing those shorts out here? Your thighs are RIDICULOUS!"
So I decided to double-take myself in the full-body mirror and see if I saw what she saw. I really didn't think that I was about to draw that much attention to myself but the fact was that my friend made me aware of something I didn't see on my own.
I kept looking...then I noticed how I looked in movement - bending over and all kinds of fun stuff like that. Then I pumped my brakes and changed. I really didn't want that kind of attention. Being appreciated for my appearance was one thing, but being considered fresh pickings in the "take home" category wasn't quite what I was going for.
Some people might say that she just didn't want me to shine brighter than her or be sexier than her...but usually those people are a walking contradiction or obviously insecure. She was neither of the two and for good reason. No homo, but my friend is HOT.
This is something that I find to be more of a rare quality in friends these days - especially with women. For some reason, there seems to be an epidemic of relationships that are filled with non-genuine behavior. "Friends" not truly taking the best interest of each other and playing subliminal competitive games rather than backing one another up.
Now, for some people, friendships take a backseat to family life (especially if you're married) but some people consider their friends to be their "family". And regardless of either situation, it is still important about the company you keep because some friends are more lethal than people you've identified as an enemy.
And my reason is this: Any person that you entrust confidential information to should be worthy of it. Any person that would let a alien-shaped crater hang out of your nose because she secretly wants to demote your appearance is insecure and has let that outweigh their devotion to being a true friend to you. Be watchful of these individuals.
People and their insecurities will always cripple themselves, but also whomever they spend their time and energy on. They are draining and really, it's not about abandoning these people, but understanding where they are and what role you will take in their lives, if any.
Choose your circle of trust wisely kids...
