Actor Michael Jace - Charged With Killing Wife and Documented Abuse with Ex-Wife

Michael Jace, an actor best known for his role on TV’s “The Shield,” has been charged in the 

fatal shooting of his wife, CNN reports.

April Jace, 40, was found shot to death in her south Los Angeles home by police called there to 

investigate a shooting, Los Angeles Police Detective Lyman Doster said.

TMZ is reporting that the actor called 911 himself and admitted that he pulled the trigger.

According to TMZ:

According to law enforcement sources Jace called 911 around 8:30 p.m. and told police, “I shot my wife.”“We’re told Jace’s neighbors in the Hyde Park area of L.A. had reported shots fired in the home, and shortly thereafter Jace made his call to 911.Sources tell us the 48-year-old actor stayed on the phone, as instructed, until LAPD arrived and found his 40-year-old wife, April Jace dead.We’re told Jace was home alone when his wife arrived with their kids. A short time later he allegedly shot her.Jace was taken into custody, and as of 1:00 a.m. Tuesday was being questioned.

This reminds me of a similar story where a dear friend of mine was shot and killed in her daycare about 4 years ago.  She had separated with her husband and moved into a house down the street from where her and her husband lived.  She was involved with the neighbor from the house she was in while married (I'm not sure if their relationship formed before or after the separation) but she received flowers a few days after Valentine's Day and by the beginning of March, the neighbor she was involved with came to her home in the morning around 7am.  Her daughter let the neighbor in and went down the stairs.  The neighbor opened fire on my friend, shooting her to death then turned the gun on himself.

It's hard to know that many of these murders are romantically-inspired.  Most people involved in a murder trial know each other.

I feel like there's no easy way to pinpoint a person's potential behavior but I do feel that if someone has made threats, they should not be taken lightly under any circumstances.

With actor, Michael Jace there are documents that accused him of being abusive towards his previous wife in their divorce settlement.  According to a witness and friend of the ex-wife, Jace strangled his ex in front of their infant child.

I believe the biggest factor in these types of situations are to never "sleep" on someone's potential. Abusive relationships are very likely to escalate over time - especially if there are no steps towards intervention that can attempt to identify the cause or origin of the behavior.

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Is A Woman Asking for a Problem With Her Husband if she "Let's Herself Go"?

My opinion is split down the middle on this one.  The fact is we live in a time where looks make up for 98% of our entertainment and the other 2% is comedy based on awful looks.  That percentage is probably as jacked up as the situation I'm asking about, but I've always been torn on this subject honestly.

The truth is that as we age, our looks will begin to change for the worse.  I know that everyone loves to say "black don't crack", and sure we have a few people who have hit the senior citizen mark looking damn good for their age (50s, 60s, even 70s) - but honestly, everyone isn't a fitness guru, a beauty conduit, or a person who wants to spend their life obsessing about a wrinkle, saggy body part, etc. for the rest of their lifetime.

I DO understand and believe that men (however) are very visual creatures.  I DO get the fact that men often crave physical things they would appreciate in their woman - but I know for damn sure that they won't trade the physical for other wholesome qualities unless he's lacking them within himself.  I believe the "hoes that win" are only winning to another whore honestly.  Men that spend so much energy celebrating and/or mentioning/entertaining women who have very low respect for themselves (IMO) are products of failed upbringings and value systems.  I'm not saying that a man who loves T&A wasn't raised right, but a man who would entertain street booty in a serious way beyond the sexual could probably sit on a couch for a few years about where his childhood went wrong.

Anyway...I'm not writing to bash, (I promise I'm not lol) but with keeping up appearance, I would be lying if I said I've never been moved (positively or negatively) about the way a man keeps himself up.  Hygiene and overall presence is one thing, but I'm not about to disown you if you're not GQ man candy of the week.  And...I do know it's often much different for men versus women.

I believe there is balance in this though.  A woman who stops putting pride into her appearance is definitely opening a door to not just other more attractive women being noticed, but for their mate to notice their neglect in a negative light.  There should be enough self-attentiveness on a lady's part where she respects regular grooming, regular hygiene, regular skin care, her curves (whether modest or ba-donk-like).

If my man was around the house not washing his ass, looking like Cousin It in the face (I love facial hair BTW, but not a rain forest), wearing things that look like he searches trash cans for dinner scraps, I would probably be searching him for crack like substances before I ask him what the hell is the problem.

But on the flip side of this, I feel like any man who would make his woman feel "less than" because she isn't a centerfold or she picked up some weight, or any other sign of "not perfect" is still in the Similac phases of his manhood.

Like I said, there's nothing wrong with standards and preferences, but a lasting bond should be based on the friendship and connection that goes beyond physical gratification.  Yeah, if a person is going off the deep end looking a hot ass mess (aka embarrassment), I can completely understand having an issue, a talk or discussion.

But if that's your other half...imperfections shouldn't break something that should be solid beyond the superficial.

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Nelly Gives Sound Relationship Advice. After Tip Drill. I'm As Shocked As You Are.

Nelly had a lot of valuable things to say to VladTV about why a marriage in the entertainment industry is a "different animal", where the situations should not be measured through a normal everyday person perspective.

Honestly, I can feel his position 100%.  He talked about how the dynamic of the entertainment industry makes it difficult to really connect with a mate because of constant distance.

Then he says, he knows he'll be ready for marriage when there's no question of anything - he will just know.

And this is just my opinion kids. If more of these women would hold their kitty dumplings to a higher standard, it would force men to value it more and settle down.  Good women have to pay for you heaux and even though the industry has always been full of groupie love, the regular folk are imitating that life at an epidemic rate.  

Sexual freedom is one thing, but the majority of women want love.  And I'm sorry, Kanye might wife the one who slept with the homies, but your everyday man who would still put a ring on it wants a woman who he knows holds herself to a higher standard.

(check out interview footage w/ VLADTV.com)

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