Nelly Gives Sound Relationship Advice. After Tip Drill. I'm As Shocked As You Are.

Nelly had a lot of valuable things to say to VladTV about why a marriage in the entertainment industry is a "different animal", where the situations should not be measured through a normal everyday person perspective.

Honestly, I can feel his position 100%.  He talked about how the dynamic of the entertainment industry makes it difficult to really connect with a mate because of constant distance.

Then he says, he knows he'll be ready for marriage when there's no question of anything - he will just know.

And this is just my opinion kids. If more of these women would hold their kitty dumplings to a higher standard, it would force men to value it more and settle down.  Good women have to pay for you heaux and even though the industry has always been full of groupie love, the regular folk are imitating that life at an epidemic rate.  

Sexual freedom is one thing, but the majority of women want love.  And I'm sorry, Kanye might wife the one who slept with the homies, but your everyday man who would still put a ring on it wants a woman who he knows holds herself to a higher standard.

(check out interview footage w/ VLADTV.com)

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Kevin Hart's Ex-Wife, Torrei Says She Still Hurts From The Divorce

I seriously had a feeling that Torrei (Kevin Hart's ex-wife) was not at all accepting of his current relationship with Eniko and I was correct.

Initially, I totally understood where Kevin was coming from when he talked about how he settled down at a very early age (early 20s) with a woman and went through a lot of the growing pains that couples usually go through - and he had to do much of this while he was gaining a fan base and popularity.  So you go from a regular Joe on the street to a "big deal" and your standards are tested because you have a new-found selection of opportunities, especially with WOMEN.

But then Torrei comes out in her interview with Jamie Brown from Sister 2 Sister Magazine that she is in fact still trying to emotionally heal from the way the marriage ended when she was the one with him "shooting in the gym".  He has his MVP trophy and is celebrating with this new woman who he refers to as his "rib".

This is a quote from some of that interview:

"It’s easy to be somebody’s rib when you’re a millionaire. That’s just me being as honest as I can. Me, for instance: You’re working at City Sports and I’m taking you to your shows, you’re driving my car, you’re crashing my car several times, and I’m still there for you, supporting you, went out and got a job for the phone company and still making sure I got your back so you can pursue your dreams…That’s what ribs do!”   -- Torrei Hart

So after reading some of the comments on MadameNoire.com, I would have to say these two basically illustrate my thoughts (especially coming from a person who invested almost a decade of my life myself):

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Kevin is a hell of an entertainer, but I totally disagree with his choice to show off a new woman after the mother of his children invested so much to help him become who he is today.  Put the shoe on the other foot.  Let the woman be the star and let Kevin be the one who supported her.  In society she would be the devil reincarnated.  Trust and BEEEELIEVE.  Double-standards all day, everyday.

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Porsha from Housewives of Atlanta is Pissed at Wendy Williams

Porsha of "Real Housewives of Atlanta" was interviewed by Atlanta's V-103 about her 
disappointment with Wendy Williams and her comments on Porsha's recent divorce.

“You know what? It’s just enough. It’s enough of women of power, women of color, not supporting each other. Like, every time I see her say something about me, I’m disappointed in her. She’s calling me ‘less than smart’; she’s less than a woman. You shouldn’t do that,” Porsha  said. “I’ve been through a very traumatic situation that hurt me. All I’m trying to do is stand and be strong and possibly inspire somebody else, and all she does is knock me down. But this is the same woman who said that I should’ve had a baby by my ex to get cash. Really? Never. Never stoop that low. So for me, I have no thoughts on Wendy, at all.” 

Wendy never builds people up in a positive way, definitely not black women.And for me, I feel like it’s low and it’s just sad,” she said. “But…she only fools the people in her audience. If you go to her Instagram and Twitter, it’s a completely different opinion. So for me I feel like her audience is just like clap-clap-clap, say ‘yeah’, say ‘yeah, stupid’, whatever. 

 I feel like with Wendy, it's never personal with her.  She's always going to catch hell because of 
her format of dishing gossip, but a story is a story to her.
She is going to gossip about Madonna just like she gossiped about Whitney.  Now I will say in the reality world arena, she doesn't seem to have much respect (overall) for certain people (flashback to her interview with Draya).

It comes with the business.  If your purpose for stardom came from being married to a high profile man, then all details (good or bad) will be front and center for discussion.  That's the contract she signed, and the nature of the entertainment beast.

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In 2014, What Is "WIFEY MATERIAL"??? -- Keyshia Cole Situation w/ V103 FM

Keyshia Cole got pretty pissed off during an interview on V-103 with Ryan Cameron's assistant Wanda Smith after she asked the question, "do you feel you were wifey material" in relation to the subject matter with her recent split with future ex-husband, Daniel "Boobie" Gibson.

“Do you feel like you were wifey material?” Wanda questioned.

“You know what? Y’all really f**kin’ with my sh** right now,” Keyshia responded. “I got some other sh** going on. What y’all wanna talk about? Tell me now.”

“You were so busy, you had your career popping off and you were doing your thing,”  Wanda explained. “Then you had to phase out and start doing the wifey things, the cooking, taking care of the kids. Were you really ready for that or were you still trying to do your music thing?” (Wanda)

Regardless of how Ms. Cole's reputation is with being a hot head, I totally understand why she jumped on the defense.  The fact that she tried to maintain a level of chill during the interview and not completely fly off the handle is admirable in itself.  To have to deal with infidelity leading to the split of someone you care for - then dealing with the media shaping stories, motives, personalities, etc. for viewership is enough to take someone out of their zone.

But I present the question:

What is "wife material"?  I purposely took off the "Y" because that term in itself irks the Doodle out of my Bug (I'm wack, I know).

I feel like there are so many variations and examples of married women these days.  I would say it depends on the man and his personal wants, but what qualities exude "wife" to most men?

Here are some qualities I jacked from my Manly Bugs...

Shares same beliefs

Attractive

Makes you a better man

Trustworthy

Ambitious

Selfless

Smart

Unconditionally loves you

Responsible

Gets along with your family

Gentleman, how does that list look?  And do these type of women usually "win" in the long run???

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