Showing posts with label fake friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fake friends. Show all posts

The Chick That Wants Everyone To Want Her


I was talking about this earlier today.  I've seen all ends of this situation.  I've seen women who actually show you CLEAR AS DAY that they're about that, "I want your man to see what he's missing" life, and I've also been accused of being that woman myself.  Yep.

First of all, the ONE CHICK that accused me years ago - if she had spent more time worrying about not coming across like a man and being so damn unattractive, my attractiveness wouldn't have made her feel some type of way. (Yeah, I said it).  Secondly, I find it very funny when someone who turns out to be promiscuous as hell would lie on someone else of being about that life.  Gotta love a**holes that deflect what they actually do themselves on other people.

THEN, I was talking to a dear friend of mine, and she told me how she actually grew up as a teen watching her mom deal with some of the shadiest characters on the planet where a woman was actually masturbating on her mom's couch while others were in the house!  And given the truthful nature of my friend (I know she doesn't make stuff up like some other people I used to be around), I believe that actually happened.

But even on a less WTF note, I don't think there's anything wrong with a beautiful confident woman being bubbly or high-spirited, but I have been around some women who really stunt in front of other women's men and then have the audacity to say that the girlfriend or wife is insecure.  I was thinking, you need to be glad she's only insecure and not violent because if I was her, you'd be finding your teeth on the ground.  Proud Scorpio in the building ((raises hands to the roof)).

I don't play that crap, I'm sorry - people can say what they want to say.  If I invest my precious time, energy and my heart with a person, WHAT WE ARE NOT GOING TO DO is entertain someone coming through smiling in my face and my man's face while she's secretly scooting closer towards him.

Unless they have an open relationship dynamic, she needs to sit down or be sat down.

But there is a difference between women who cry for attention, and women who just get it anyway.  Every woman who turns heads is not an attention whore.  She might just have a presence.  There's a Yin and Yang to many things.

I Am Not Your "FAM"...



Unless you meet the following requirements:


1)  I share intimate details of my life with you.  You know what is going on in my life because I have elected to share that privileged information with you.

2)  I know that I could come to you in the event that I need support of any kind (because you would genuinely be there for me).

3) We share a mutual respect for one another.

4) We genuinely enjoy spending quality time together.  (Keyword: Quality - that doesn't include shit I could do with anyone)


I'm so tired of people lowering the value of words that should be held more sacred. You have chicks calling each other "sis" who can't stand each other, people calling each other "bestie" and humping the life out of them at the same time, and "I love you" definitely doesn't mean a damn to some people - you might as well be saying "hey boo".

That's where the saying, "There's levels to this sh-" truly comes in handy because I might be cool with you, but that DEFINITELY doesn't mean you are my FAM.

I don't confuse the depths of my bonds because that's where things get messy and you get taken advantage of.

Some people only act like they want to be close to you so they can observe you anyway. They just want the intimate details so they'll fake like they rock with you.

This isn't to say that family won't mess up or hurt you, but we all know the difference between people that genuinely give a damn versus people who could take you or leave you.

And for the ones like that just know:

I KNOW WHO YOU ARE.  WE ARE COOL, BUT YOU ARE NOT MY FAMILY AND YOU DO NOT HAVE FAMILY ACCESS.  SO BACK UP OFF THE KID. (I FLEXED MY ARM MUSCLE WHEN I SAID THAT TOO)

AND FOR THOSE WHO GIVE FAMILY ACCESS TO PEOPLE WHO HAVEN'T EARNED IT, YOU NEED TO STEP BACK AND SEE WHO HAS REALLY SHOWN YOU THEY DESERVE THE INTIMATE DETAILS OF YOUR LIFE.

I MIGHT SOUND PISSED BUT I'M CURRENTLY SMILING AT SOMEONE WHO'S NEVER MADE ME QUESTION THEIR LOYALTY.  Y'ALL BE EASY. (LOL)

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