She Posted An Ad Congratulating Her Husband and His Mistress On Pregnancy

Alrighty!  So, you find out that your spouse not only cheated on you, but there is a child on the way as a result.

In a story via iDateDaily, Texas wife, Timeshia Brown, decided to purchase an ad in the local Hemphill, Texas newspaper in order to publicize her husband’s affair.  She congratulated her husband and his mistress on their pregnancy.

The ad initially surfaced on Facebook and went viral on Reddit, but it has opened a national dialogue about passive aggressive forms of revenge. 

The ad says: 

“I would like to say congratulations to Shara Cormier and Patrick Brown… They are expecting a baby. Hope you both are really in love and I hope it works out. Always, Patrick’s wife, Timeshia Brown”

Hmmm...so, in this situation what should she have done?  I have a feeling she would have been criticized regardless of what she did in response, but I know that reactions deemed as passive-aggressive never help an already bad situation.

Controlling our emotions can truly be one of the most powerful things you can ever do in your life and not because of saving face when someone hurts you, but understanding that in the midst of us succumbing to our feelings, we might spend way too much money, harm our bodies, harm someone else, get in trouble, affect our children or younger bystanders, and a host of other things. 

When your world is turned upside down, it's hard to think clearly but that's why it's important to have a solid support system around that can be a voice of reason that can help to look out for your well-being.  Not someone who feels they would benefit from your hard times (this includes people who want to be with you, lonely friends, jealous friends, by the way I use the word "friend" loosely on the last two examples).

I hope somehow, she comes out of her situation with peace of mind in knowing that she is better off not becoming a member of the circus her husband created.  

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But You're Proposing on Friday Right?!

So I'm at the store trying to buy some memory for my Macbook yesterday (I know I'm a dork, I accept that and so should you) and this sales dude came up to me so he could help get what I needed.  I could tell he was one of those guys that knew how to make his work shift go by faster by making small talk with customers.

He told me to forgive him because he was pretty anxious about proposing to his girl on Friday (Valentines Day).  So I was like, "Awwwww!" (Deep down I'm burying my hater reflexes since I dont have a damn ring yet, but seriously).  I always have a soft spot about proposals and started asking him about how long he had been with his girl.  He had already told me about his 2 year old son they have.

He tells me that they've been together for 8 years, but off and on.  Then he voluntairily says that he stepped out on her while she was preggo.  So I asked him if she caught him up in a lie and that's when he told me that he confessed everything to her.  He said he's the type of dude where he wanted everything out in the open - mind you, he said that his girl wouldn't have even known if he had chose to keep everything to himself.

So his whole thing now was to lock everything down because be truly realized now much he loved her after he had a nice opportunity to be a man whore and slide up into a gang of ladybugs (I use the lady part loosely).  He appreciated the genuine connection they had at the end of the day.

He got my memory card and a few other accessories while I told him I had a similar off and on situation, but it didn't result in a marriage.  He told me he could tell that I wouldn't be on the market for too long, which I could appreciate him for acknowledging my fabulousness.

Then as we were completing the sale he goes, "so, what's the rest of your week looking like?"  "I was like, well, I have lots to do in terms of work, but why do you ask?"

(HIS WORDS IN PLAIN ENGLISH:)

"So yeah, you seem pretty cool, I think we should go get some drinks tomorrow and just hang out. You know, nothing like "that",  just hangin'."

So my whole facial expression went from a "I'm so proud to hear about black love" face to a "n****s ain't s***" face of pure disgust.

(a face sort of like this situation right here)

I promise I can't make this stuff up.  Why Father God why?!

So besides the throwing up I held back from doing, are there actual times where men confess unfaithful behavior???  I found that very hard to believe.  Help me out here fellas. Shed some masculine light pretty please.

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IF YOU DON’T WANT YOUR MAN TO CHEAT…

I've heard just about everything in life when it comes to keeping your man from cheating. Everything. I've heard that you should make sure you handle biz in the kitchen on the regular...I've heard you should make him feel like he's cheating with you sometimes and have role-play where you're his "whore/slut/sex toy whatever", and I've also heard that it's a lost cause because men will probably cheat regardless.

I was watching a YouTube clip that a lovely lady I'm friends with on Facebook shared on her profile.  It was a dude explaining to the ladies that if you want to keep your man from cheating, you need to stay away from men who are well-endowed AND men with money.  Funny as it was, he was so sincere about his argument.

Well, that seems like it makes perfect sense because of his logic.  He said that most men like to show off something they possess that is worthy of bragging rights.  Fair enough.

But I know that even the "Tiny Timmys" probably have had their share of extra-curricular booty. Umm hmm.

First of all, there are PLENTY of reasons why men cheat.  Women as well, but the problem is not the external factors of food, sex, and money.  It's the lack of INTERNAL FOUNDATION.

This is what I know about people who have a relationship with GOD.  NO THEY ARE NOT PERFECT AND NEVER WILL BE.  THEY WILL MESS UP, THEY MIGHT TALK A LITTLE TRASH, MIGHT EVEN SLAP SOMEBODY IF THEY'RE FEELING FROGGY ENOUGH (these are jokes).......BUT.....

Having a relationship with GOD helps to direct a person to make better decisions.  Sure...people who have no relationship with GOD aren't all vicious people with a vendetta out to hurt someone....BUT...

in times where they could make a decision that is out of love, maturity, is morally the right thing to do, or in their best interest in the LONG RUN....many times....they might choose a more selfish route.  We need spiritual guidance to help lead us to a better frame of mind.

When the secretary's fast behind at your man's job wants to stick around an extra hour to see if he feels like biting her bait...TRUST ME when I say you would rather have a man who knows GOD to make that judgment call rather than a man who does not.  Especially if you've gotten a little lazy with your better half and like to wear Army Fatigues to bed with the hard rollers and your favorite doo-rag.  (I need the ladybugs that do this to cut that out too.)

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