Showing posts with label prioritizing dating life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label prioritizing dating life. Show all posts

BUTT CHEEKS ANONYMOUS!!!


It is SUCH a waste when I see attractive people --- doesn't matter if it's a male or a female that are visibly a catch...but that's IT.

THIS IS WHERE I COME UP WITH THE EXPRESSION, "BUTT CHEEKS ANONYMOUS".

You have the attractive ladybug who is obviously a nice arm piece for a guy, but she offers absolutely NOTHING but just that.  The cheeks.  Yep.  The identity is lost...therefore she is a nameless, pointless booty.

And YES...men can be guilty of this as well.  You'll usually find them having weak conversation and the face of Heaven with a dash of glory. 

We can speak about this when it comes to personality, sex, or anything else.  I think there are so many people who think the only thing they need to bring to the table is the visual package.  I get tired of dudes who think that if they are a 6 ft walking display of GQ, cute face, or well-endowed, that this is the basis for being a great catch for a woman.

There was this guy I dated for T-minus 10 seconds of my life that I'll never get back.  He was about 6'3, basketball stature, well-dressed, his cologne was like POW... (also known as...Fine as HELL dude)

BUTTTT!!!!

He had the conversation of a little league MVP.  It was hard for us to really create chemistry because he had little to nothing to talk about with me.  And some would say that he might have just put me in a category and didn't want to pursue anything meaningful with me for whatever reason.  But um...that's just the thing.  I couldn't shake him for about 2 months after my stomach couldn't take anymore of his sleep-inspiring presence.

I doubt very seriously that he lacked interest with me.  I believe he just relied on being attractive to be a good catch.  Now, being pretty or handsome may get you far in life...I mean, look at the Basketball Wives and all the other reality shows out there now!  If you aspire to be a talentless, psuedo-celeb then I guess my argument can go in the dumpster right along with your IQ, but let's just say that you actually want to find someone that you have things in common with.  How the hell would you figure that out by having a 3rd grade conversation?  Well, I guess if both of you do, then you're made for each other.

When I tried to work as a promoter for a couple of months, I met several ladybugs who reminded me of this whole topic.  Not all of them were like that, so don't think I'm saying all chicks who frequent the club are airheads but.....I PERSONALLY know women who have a mentality like their physical attributes will somehow end up paying their way through life.

There are too many people who don't understand that they need to have something OF SUBSTANCE to bring to the table too.  OR they are in denial and refuse to do a self-evaluation.  Take interest in yourself long enough to fine tune your NON-SUPERFICIAL attributes.  I guarantee your conversation will be better along with your self-esteem and your dating/love life.

Just a suggestion.

WHAT’S YOUR PRIORITY SINGLE LADY??? (PART ONE)


I'VE BEEN AWAY FOR A WHILE...BUT NOW I'M BACK MORE LONG-WINDED THAN EVER!!! (HEE-HEE-HA-HA)

Dear Single Woman,

It's cute to say you're "grinding"...it's really admirable to yip yap about the fact that you're doing "you" (whatever that is), when all you're really doing in your mind is trying to carry the 1 and push the equals sign on the calculator about who will sweep you off your feet and marry you.

MY DIARY ENTRY: I WAS DEFINITELY THAT CHICK. CIRCA 2009, I WAS PROPOSED TO AS I WAS ACTUALLY TRYING TO BREAK UP WITH MY EX-BOYFRIEND. I FORCED THE MOMENT BECAUSE I FINALLY HEARD THOSE WORDS UTTERED I HAD WAITED A LIFETIME FOR. BUT THE PERSON I WAS WITH PROPOSED ON ONE HELL OF A WHELM. NO RING. NO PLANNED APPROACH TO MAKE IT EVEN REMOTELY ROMANTIC. HE JUST GOT ON HIS KNEES AS ONE LAST ATTEMPT TO SHUT ME UP ABOUT HOW AWFUL OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS. AND I SAID YES. AND WHY? BECAUSE I FELT LIKE I HAD PAID MY DUES.

Most of us...either mid/late 20's...30's...and 40's women at some point begin to evaluate our personal lives, and if we're still unwed, we definitely start having those talks with our closest confidants about the pursuit of Mr. Right.

Problem is, MANY OF US DO NOT KNOW WHAT WE WANT OUT OF A HUBBY!!! Yeah, we claim that we want an honest, respectful, romantic man that has financial stability. But let me tell you what happens in the middle of that sentence before we finish the rest of that ball-faced lie...

WE CONTINUE TO INVEST UNDESERVED TIME TOWARD ALL THE MR. WRONGS BECAUSE WE'RE TOO AFRAID TO SIT THE HELL DOWN FOR A HOT SECOND, CHILL AND WAIT FOR MR. RIGHT THAT IS OUT THERE TO COME GET US.

How many of yall ladybugs out there KNOOOOOOOW deep down that you have a complete LAME, LOSER, LOW-LIFE on speed-dial and need to house down a whole bottle of Moscato (or if you have a powerful stomach...some Captain Morgan - I don't drink anymore BTW...) just so you can entertain him and forget about how pathetic the situation is?

And after that episode ends...you're either repentin' to Jesus or feeling emptier than before you saw him because you know that this isn't in agreement with your conscience.

This is what I KNOW ladybugs. When you develop a true purpose and strive to better your life and focus on the contribution you want to make in the world, in the lives of the people you love, and frankly, find something to do with yourself --- HE WILL COME AND FIND YOU!!!!

On top of that, your surroundings will change for the better. When you have more focus and purpose in your life, you notice that more trivial things that could take up time in your life get pushed further and further to the BACK of your mind. It's called developing standards for your life.

One beautiful thing about being single is that you have time to think independently with fewer emotional distractions. Take that time to KNOW YOURSELF and LOVE YOURSELF and TAKE PRIDE IN WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU WANT. Trust me. He'll come once you stop trippin' about it.

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