We all have heard the saying, "Watch the company you
keep". The problem is that many of us have heard it, but haven't
LIVED it. We often allow things like availability, location and boredom
to help us figure out who we keep around. The problem is our judgment
system (or lack thereof) often gets us into trouble.
If you ever want to know where you are headed and what direction your life is going, it is a VITAL thing to check out who you are spending time with. When I say spending time, I mean in conversation, in face to face time, and overall interaction. If the majority of the people you connect with are constantly in negative situations, always blaming other people for things, have sneaky behaviors, have stolen from you, lied to you (do I really need to add to this list?) then it is time to re-construct your circle.
Many of us know when something doesn't feel right, but we fail to pay attention to our instincts. And WHY IS THAT? Why do many of us spend sooooo much time trying to convince others how much crap we won't take off of someone, but when it comes to actually incorporating that into our real life, we turn into Spongebob talking to Mr. Crabs?
There is an alarm in ALL OF US that goes off when we're dealing with someone who is not good for us. And if there is no alarm, it is either because you have gravitated towards the right people or maybe the bad influence is really you (just saying).
Ladies, how many of you have a friend right now that you need Red Bull and iron pills just to talk to them because that's how much life they sucked out of you after they share their latest soap opera marathon? I mean, there's nothing wrong with being there for your friends, but if the sum of their conversation usually involves someone potentially getting scraped up off the ground from a powerful a** kicking, YOU NEED TO RE-EVALUATE YOUR LEVEL OF INTERACTION WITH THAT PERSON.
I had a friend a few years ago who was staying over my house for a few weeks until she moved into her own place. My boyfriend at the time was about to come over and I let her know that. This girl proceeds to grab a can of air freshener and sprays it down the hall and straight into her own bedroom before he got there. I was like (pause....looks around). Now hell, maybe she just wanted to come across as being clean and fresh, but it is quite a suspect thing to observe when you know they have slept with a married man before.
The point is, you have to be aware of your conscience. There are so many people who allow their insecurities, fears, inner demons, and other negative things influence them in relationships. If you have people around you (even family members) who you can't be inspired by and grow from....THEY ARE MEANT TO BE LOVED FROM A DISTANCE. <~~~~ I can't stress that enough kids. DO NOT allow someone to hinder your evolution because they are afraid to grow themselves.
Be there for them....LOVE THEM...but love yourself enough to control who you exchange energy with. Period.
If you ever want to know where you are headed and what direction your life is going, it is a VITAL thing to check out who you are spending time with. When I say spending time, I mean in conversation, in face to face time, and overall interaction. If the majority of the people you connect with are constantly in negative situations, always blaming other people for things, have sneaky behaviors, have stolen from you, lied to you (do I really need to add to this list?) then it is time to re-construct your circle.
Many of us know when something doesn't feel right, but we fail to pay attention to our instincts. And WHY IS THAT? Why do many of us spend sooooo much time trying to convince others how much crap we won't take off of someone, but when it comes to actually incorporating that into our real life, we turn into Spongebob talking to Mr. Crabs?
There is an alarm in ALL OF US that goes off when we're dealing with someone who is not good for us. And if there is no alarm, it is either because you have gravitated towards the right people or maybe the bad influence is really you (just saying).
Ladies, how many of you have a friend right now that you need Red Bull and iron pills just to talk to them because that's how much life they sucked out of you after they share their latest soap opera marathon? I mean, there's nothing wrong with being there for your friends, but if the sum of their conversation usually involves someone potentially getting scraped up off the ground from a powerful a** kicking, YOU NEED TO RE-EVALUATE YOUR LEVEL OF INTERACTION WITH THAT PERSON.
I had a friend a few years ago who was staying over my house for a few weeks until she moved into her own place. My boyfriend at the time was about to come over and I let her know that. This girl proceeds to grab a can of air freshener and sprays it down the hall and straight into her own bedroom before he got there. I was like (pause....looks around). Now hell, maybe she just wanted to come across as being clean and fresh, but it is quite a suspect thing to observe when you know they have slept with a married man before.
The point is, you have to be aware of your conscience. There are so many people who allow their insecurities, fears, inner demons, and other negative things influence them in relationships. If you have people around you (even family members) who you can't be inspired by and grow from....THEY ARE MEANT TO BE LOVED FROM A DISTANCE. <~~~~ I can't stress that enough kids. DO NOT allow someone to hinder your evolution because they are afraid to grow themselves.
Be there for them....LOVE THEM...but love yourself enough to control who you exchange energy with. Period.
