Necole Bitchie had a "Girl Talk Chat" with 30-year-old Melane Fiona who talked about her recent break up with Adam Rodriguez (that edible-looking Hispanic dude from CSI Miami).
Madame Noire covered this story as well and quoted her on the smartest method to part ways when you break up with your man.
"Remaining calm is generally the best way to approach the situation". It's so easy to fly off the handle and throw stuff outside, burn stuff, but there is nothing good that comes from that. There's more strength and power in remaining calm because you've done the work to know what is for you and what is not for you."
I feel like, this situation is always two-fold in my eyes. Most people will try to play the, "I have no f*cks to give" approach in many break up situations because most people try to save face and look unaffected. OR, you might actually see the volcano erupting depending on who you're dealing with.
Ms. Fiona's mentality (IMO) is honestly the best mindset to have in a situation that will undoubtedly test your levels of chill. Especially if there was cheating or lying involved.
But it's definitely more important for you to be okay on the INSIDE. And the best thing that can help you remain cool during a rough split would be to have the right people around you (aka a DOPE SUPPORT SYSTEM).
Don't start talking to your bitter friends that can't wait for drama to pop off so they can get animated about telling you what you should do - even though all of their advice has NEVER worked in their own situation.
You need to be around the people who will push you to keep moving, to do better, and to vent, but to ultimately let it go and move on.
Most importantly, don't short change yourself. There are a TON of people who have filed for divorce because they married for all the wrong reasons. There are also people who married because they were trying to prove something. Who (exactly) are you proving anything to? Do you get full off of what these people eat? Do they pay your electric bill and if they do can you tell them to take a crack at mine real quick?! After all, behind closed doors, THAT will be the person you have to co-exist and go through this thing called life with.
That brings me into my next topic about women who feel they have "earned a ring". Oh yes dammit, let's explore this shit. (Look, I cursed.)
