Disrespected on Social Media

Access.  For some, it's like the equivalent of leaving a kid in a candy store.  There's so many aisles of "goodies" and "snacks" that some people may not be able to resist and for the person who still has growing to do, it may cost them everything.

STORY:  A friend of mine told me at one point in time, she had a very short reconciliation period with an ex-boyfriend where he threw up a shirtless picture of himself in a jacuzzi.

They were in a relationship when he posted the picture.  She said she (personally) behaved like someone in a relationship online and offline, but with him she could read through his behavior.

But more than the fact that he knew the camera had caught his good side, he threw the picture up for a reason.  He was "baiting", and it wasn't for her.  Now, she is pretty sure the fruits of his man candy labor have paid off for him.  That was one of the many many MANY reasons she didn't work to save their relationship.  On top of the fact that at some point you have to enforce a standard of how you want to be treated, you also have to know when the direction of the person you're with is not going towards you. And to keep it 100, it WASN'T.  So she had to let it go.
Did he love her, sure he did.  ((rolls eyes))

But I said that to say social media is an opportunity for COMMUNICATION.

And everyone doesn't use it properly, or RESPECTFULLY.

Many of us use it as a safe way to "express ourselves" with hidden meanings, emotions, inside jokes, etc., but what about the person who contacts someone because they know they can and they know they have access?

Those times that conversations with your mate get short because of a difference or disagreement and then grow longer with someone who is just out there in social media land.

These little chats can always grow into more, and this isn't to make anyone feel "any type of way", but it's the truth.  There are some people right now who know they act up online (or offline for that matter) and the amount of thirst traps waiting out there who lack standards are by the MILLIONS.

So, how do you avoid the potential traps of social media?  You respect your boundaries like anything else you cherish in life.  

If you know you will get on Facebook or Instagram and show all of your natural ass, FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO DO WITH YOUR TIME.   Grab your PS4 or talk to your XBox One, take Rover's slobbery butt for a walk, go watch Roxy Reynolds with some lotion, but stay out of situations where you will be like La Doodlebug in Starbucks.  Raping the frappucinos and sh--- (my bad...I'm having a moment).

I don't know how many couples have each others' passcode or snoop in their mate's accounts, but there are a number of men and women who use Facebook, Twitter and the rest as a means to LINK UP with folk.  Many of them are pretty laid back online too - they don't say too much because they're probably saying it all in certain folks' inboxes.

In a relationship you should feel at ease to know your other half celebrates you and what you have together.  And everyone should be comfortable period.  And if you aren't...TALK ABOUT IT.

#COMMUNICATION

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I Gave Her 5 Times to Piss Me Off...

For the most part, people start off with a very pleasant and clean slate with me when I first meet them - regardless of what i've heard about them.  I know that sounds very "politically correct" to say, but I usually try to build my own opinion of a person without biased information influencing me - mostly because people can lie and you never know who could be "hating" on who.

So, I was hosting an event and there was this "lady" (I'm saying lady like she's older than me...she's not) but she was a contributing speaker for the event and I was definitely looking forward to meeting her.  I began the event pronouncing her last name wrong and needless to say, I believe it set the tone for the rest of our brief exchanges we had there after.  I believe the problem I truly have (note the present tense) with this person is the fact that instead of taking the time to feel me out a little better, she treated me like she already had me figured out.  Have you ever encountered someone where you feel like they have pre-judged you and are already acting out what category they've subliminally put you in?  Well, I definitely felt the vibe from this woman and needless to say, I eventually gave her the "I will stab you in your pinky toe while you're sleep" face.  


I don't understand why people take common courtesy for granted.  Even if she initially met me thinking "who is this b#tch", I would think the mature way to engage me would have been in a manner that she would want to be addressed herself.  I could be absolutely ANYONE.  How does she know?  I could hold a key to a door she would like to have opened one day, but because she made the decision to stick her nose up in the air and express a subliminally negative attitude, the door would be locked by most people if they were in my position.   


It's a problem I usually see with people that have made some level of accomplishment - they put themselves on an imaginary pedestal.  The word is PRETENTIOUS.   CELEBRITIES that I've met with FAR more credentials and accomplishments have taken time to humble themselves for a friendly exchange with me, but a person who is still in most cases a "squirrel still trying to gather her nuts" places herself above me because of what?  Your guess is as good as mine.  


Anyone who truly knows me knows that I support talented and hard working individuals 1000% - ESPECIALLY if they represent the area that I am from (Washington, DC area also known to some as the "DMV").  I gave this person MULTIPLE TIMES to show me that she had the attitude of a good ass kicking recipient (I'm not violent, I swear lol) before I made up my mind to delete her from my long list of people whose mission I support.  Not like she needs me, but karma is a real thing for people whose representatives are a far cry from who they really are.  


Okay, I think I'm done venting about Cruella DeVille.  I think it wouldn't sting as much if I hadn't opened a door for her that she didn't even acknowledge me for - but that's when I try to remember that any time I lend a hand, referral, or any of the like, it really is because it's in my heart to help people as much as I can.  See, I tried to bring it back to love even though it would be nice to drop a 10 pound weight on her foot.  ((sings "Woo-sah" song now))

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