At least...that's what she thinks she is.
More and more as I spend a few seconds too long on social media, I am finding more and more people talking this subject that really hurts me to my soul - not just for the state of the urban community, but for my little girls that have to exist as adults one day in this craziness.
Jada Pinkett made a video about it (might I add just days before her daughter was shown in a very racy picture in bed with a 20 year old man ((long deep sigh on that one)), but she did comment about this along with a Facebook friend of mine who made a status about this current generation of twenty-somethings and etc. who are influencing a new level of behavior that is hurting us.
The era of the "Bad Bitch" has become VIRAL among the mindsets of many women. There are a ton of girls and grown ass women who feel empowered and strong when they describe themselves like this.
The only problem is...IT'S FRAUDULENT.
There's a TON of women who claim they would rather not have to deal with the emotional strain of a committed relationship, so they will take the role of a "side-chick", "other woman", or say they aren't worried about what he does. Then in the same breath, complain that they can't trust anyone. But didn't you just become the untrustworthy party by sleeping with someone's man? Also if there's children involved, the responsibility is usually uneven in broken households, so how can a woman say that she doesn't have to deal with emotional strain when most of the time, they are usually complaining about some level of uneven responsibility? These feelings are usually masked with condescending and passive-aggressive statuses online and a ton of other crap that doesn't solve anything.
That's not to say in all broken households that the man isn't stepping up, but there's a difference between daily household responsibility and visitation responsibilities. HUGE DIFFERENCE.
Going back to the "Bad Bitch" label (however), the biggest thing that is so wack about this dynamic is the
absence of responsibility. There's no real effort involved where a male must grow to be a man to provide. All of this is more of a business transaction where the woman is the object. Sure, they might be cool with one another, but we weren't built as humans to be alone. We were made to attach to one another. Just like men are territorial about who they are with and care for, women get attached and eventually want to care for and love the person they put time and energy into.
Once upon a time, we understood this as a society. Now...everyone is saying things like, "who made these rules" and "some people aren't built for relationships" and blah blah (STFU) blah. And honestly, THEY'RE RIGHT! Some people AREN'T BUILT FOR RELATIONSHIPS because they were broken from childhood and put through a lot of bullshit by their environment. They may have been abused by someone as a kid or as an adult and became so afraid of attachment that they come across on these social media pages trying to make other people feel as broken as they are.
There are lot of these wack ass people who come disguised as comedians or whatever they choose to call themselves, but there's no description of an actual mature adult in any of this behavior.
It takes MATURITY to commit yourself to something and someone. It takes MATURITY to not give into your selfish impulses and to put yourself in the shoes of another person.
There's too many people out here who DISH SHIT THEY WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO TAKE. I think that alone is one of the biggest things that piss me off about this upbringing-deprived set of dumbasses we have out here nowadays. People who don't put themselves in the position of a person they deal a f*cked up hand to.
I like being appreciated for my appearance just like any other woman, but do I think getting "Likes" on social media mean anything beyond some dudes who want to see how quick they can get me in a bedroom? HELL NO.
I was taught better than that. Comments and likes and compliments don't mean SH*T. Do these people call me to ask me if I'm okay? Would they give a damn if I was sick, or if my family was going through something?
When the party stops, which one of those dudes that appreciated your ass cheeks splattered online wants to have a deep convo about the future and the legacy you want to leave behind for following generations? If your parents or relative was sick, who would visit them in the hospital or check on the family?
WHO REALLY GIVES A SH*T ABOUT YOU BESIDES WHAT YOU COULD DO TO BENEFIT THEM?
These assholes don't care about you girl. They want to get a nut and they want to talk shit about you when they're done. They want to make you feel like something is wrong with you if you care about something meaningful because "It's just Facebook" and "It's Just Instagram".
All that fix-a-flat you pumped into your ass and boobs...all that MAC you painted on...that sew-in weave down to your fake assets is all so someone can use you, THEN tell you you're good enough to f*ck, but not to love. Especially chicks that aren't "exotic". Nah girl, you gotta tell him you got some Spanish or Indian in your family just so he'll halfway treat you like you're worth a dinner before the fu*k instead of just the fu*k.
Ask yourself if you have a kid, if you would be cool with some of the dudes you deal with talking to them. What about your mom? Are they good enough to talk to her?
I hate certain slang (GOD knows I do) but the expression, "F*ck N*ggas" is so appropriate for some of these punk ass negros.
I am in no way trying to bash men as a whole, so don't come at me with that BS, but these dudes who RATIONALIZE and try to tell women to lower their standards of being respected as a human in order to "kick it" need to get sent to a "grown man boot camp".
That's what needs to happen. Men are considered the "head of household" in marriage, they are the stronger beings biologically, so I believe them to be responsible for taking the LEAD. We have too many men who don't understand that because nobody taught them anything.
How can the cycle stop? I don't want to say we're doomed and throw in the towel because as a mother, this is the world my girls have to live in. I honestly don't know how anyone who has a daughter can not be outraged by the patterns we have in society today.
There is a time and place for everything. A stripper belongs in a strip club. Porn belongs on porno sites or subscriptions. Hoes belong on the strip if that's their hustle. Why we have brought all this sh*t to the mainstream world for everyone to see and be influenced by is retarded as hell.
THE URBAN COMMUNITY is the only branch of the world where we can't seem to understand how to put sh*t in its proper place. We condone so much ignorance, then wonder why it's there in the first place. Duhhhhh...because we get these dumbasses paid by tuning in.
Women who tell a dude it's "OK" with their cooch every time he hits, but can't be seen with her in public. Then she has a NERVE to laugh when some wack ass dude makes fun of her type of behavior like it's funny. This dude just BLATANTLY defined you as nothing. How did we get so damn stupid?
My rant could go on forever. And ever. And EVER.
(This is your ass. Dummy.)
