Did Kimye Get Married? -- Does the Title Matter???

So the rumor is that Kimye are "man and wife" officially on paper, according to reports online. Their publicity team are not commenting on it thus far and stated that they will be holding a private wedding ceremony with roughly 200+ of their closest friends.

My question (however) is, are titles really growing less and less important in relationships?  I know that there are tons of people who blame this whole thing on people being "whores, playas, etc.", but I'm wondering if more people are warming up to the idea of having "no titles" in an effort to "keep the peace" with the person they're dealing with.

My opinion is that being publicly exclusive is a sign of respect for that person and what you are building with them.

Respect definitely seems to be growing more extinct with the times, but I believe that people who are truly committed understand that marriage vows are an expression of the respect you have for your bond.

And who would argue that unless there are other agendas against the relationship involved???

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Talk Powerful Sh** To Me!!! I LOVE THAT!!!

Am I the only person here who is NOT attracted to a person I can't talk sh*t to?!

Seriously though.

It's one thing to have a hopeless romantic on your hands, and I totally want someone who thinks of me enough to want to inspire that side, but sometimes you just need the comedy.

My parents have been going strong for 135.6899 years and a good 134 of that was spent with them laughing and talking powerful trash to one another.

He'll tell my mom in a heartbeat how he'll slap the black off of her or that she scares him in the morning, or that my dad's snoring has burned skin off the side of her face at night, but this is all in beautiful fun and a lifetime of being with your best friend.

Now of course there is a balance because of these upbringing-deprived little bastards wouldn't know respect if it kicked them in the family jewels. There's a difference between a little trash talk and being a human box of Massengil.

Tell me how I look like Danny Glover in a dim light sometimes, it's okay...I don't mind.  We can wrestle about it, then we can.... ((snort laughs))

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Message To People Who Judge Battered Women (RANT)

Especially other women.

How dare you take another woman's situation and act as if you understand what it feels like to be helpless and torn between your fear, your love and choices?

This isn't directed to any one person.  This was inspired by Housewives of Atlanta star, Porsha Stewart because she made allegations on air that her ex-husband, Kordell Stewart, former Quarterback of the Pittsburgh Steelers was abusive during their marriage.

Whether she was lying or not isn't my concern because who knows what happened?  We don't. People will speculate and judge on either side.

My stance is the fact that it is easy to tell someone else what they need to do when you don't have to make the hard judgment of altering the course of your life.  This is why I laugh at unattached people who always talk about how emotional someone who IS attached is acting when they can't even relate to the person.

There is a COMPLETELY different mindset involved when you co-exist with a person on an intimate level.  Especially when years, family, property, and memories are involved.

This era of people who are so quick to throw each other away (at least publicly) is so full of shit, it makes me want to gag.  All this "I don't care" crap is like the delinquent child crying out for help and attention.

A battered woman isn't someone who wants to be hurt.  She's not asking to be mistreated.  She probably isn't even stupid.  She's afraid.  She's torn between her better judgment and her courage to demand more of her life.  She needs support.

So many Black people don't know the true meaning of the word, "support".  There's a BIG difference between being supportive versus enabling.  Encouragement rather than condescension.   I don't know a time where a person being condescending worked out for anyone's benefit honestly.  But so many people and their "high horses" want to cluck and bark about some shit they don't know anything about.

So yeah, just like some of you judge those women, I'M JUDGING YOU.  BASTARDS.

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Money Mayweather Starting the Fight Early With His Ex-Girl

Goodness.  What's wrong with Black folks?  So, Money Mayweather is set to hit Vegas for his fight against a Spanish guy for the umpteenth time (I'm an asshole, these are just jokes) - his name is Marcos Madiana from Argentina.  But in the meantime, he's making more noise on the personal side of his life.

So, he and his fiance of 4 years, Shantel Jackson (@missjackson on Instagram) split a few weeks ago and their social media pages have been full of all the juiciness and controversy that ratchet lovers could ever want in their life.

The feud wildfire began to spread when Jackson posted a picture of herself and Nelly courtside at the Heat vs. Bobcats Playoff game.  She posted the picture around 7am yesterday (May 1st).

Mayweather then posted a document stating that Jackson had gotten an abortion of their twin babies last December.  This is the picture he posted:

I had to do a zoom into the document because it was rumored that the pregnancy was ectopic (meaning - inside her fallopian tubes and also meaning she would lose the babies).  According to this document (if true), the pregnancy looks like it's where it's supposed to be.  "Intrauterine" meaning, inside her uterus.

To add to this, Mayweather posted a very unflattering picture of Miss Jackson last month seen here:

She responds to this by uploading the same photo of herself with the caption:

What woman doesn't have a day like this.  This reason why I left!!!!  It's been a year now.  Don't you have a fight coming up.

Last night around 8pm, Shantel posted a reply to his instagram post about the abortion:

Allegedly, Shantel split with Mayweather because of his infidelity and links to women she repeatedly heard about, which is a far cry from what his story is saying.

So yeah, why am I talking about all this craziness?  Well...I think the responses from the fans and followers have been more intriguing than the drama itself honestly.  I see many women who have sided with Shantel about her decision to do what's right with her body AND pointing out the fact that she's obviously NOT a "golddigger" because if she was, she had the jackpot right in her tummy.

I have also seen male responses who simply call her out of her name and stress the fact that she has been easily replaced by all the other eligible vaginas (because that's the main body part for women in the industry right?).

My take on it is:  whether she aborted because of a health-issue, or because she was reluctant to become a mother at this time is not for anyone to judge.  People love to speak on things they know nothing about, and love to ridicule until their business becomes front and center of the judgment.

Mayweather needs to act his age AND WAGE (he has too much notoriety to take such a publicly low blow on someone he once claimed to love).  That behavior is for kids who are still trying to figure it out.  I know in 2014, asking any public figure to act like some form of role model is like asking them to visit the moon with no space suit, but I am a firm believer of the saying, "to whom much is given, much is required".

Jealousy can bring out a LOT of ugliness in males and females, but true maturity is where you can understand that we all are bigger than our emotions.  LIFE is bigger than our emotions.  Emotions rise and fall like the sun.  They change like the weather, but life still remains constant and moving. While you are happy, sad, angry, indifferent, or vindictive....life is still happening around you. People are still watching.

He really should handle his emotions better, but knowing his STANS/fans, they will justify his behavior.

The problem is, so many of our peers (20 somethings, 30 somethings, and beyond) fail to understand that all this nonsense usually begins the path towards becoming an older person with regrets.  Imagine yourself at 60 when a lot your shit stops working right.  Did your behavior at a younger age set you up to be content with your life and the people within it?

A lot of people (men and women) are ditching a LOT of their 80% people to rock with that attractive, but worthless 20%.  20% people only care about how you can benefit them, but as soon as the party is over, so is their company.  You'll learn.  Mayweather gonna learn too.  Maybe not today though.  He's too obsessed with his money.

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My 85 Cents on Donald Sterling (Racist Owner of the LA Clippers)

So by now, many of us (basketball fans or not) have heard about the LA Clippers owner, Donald Sterling who allegedly made racist remarks to his Black and Mexican mistress, V. Stiviano (who goes by a number of alises), saying that she needs to only socialize with Black people in private because she represents him and he is not okay with the public display.  

Obviously most Black folks aren't surprised by the remarks made, I'm just wondering why he would be crazy enough to verbalize his feelings over the phone or in an environment where he could be recorded.  (Senile I guess...)

So many different things come to mind about this entire situation honestly, but the biggest thing (in my opinion) is that the slave dynamic rings just as true in 2014, as it did 200 years ago.  

The sports arena is not the only place where top executives and owners feel this way.  And we (Black folks) support so many things that we honestly shouldn't.  The MUSIC INDUSTRY is a huge example.  I'm not about to give a speech about why because there's so many people that lack direction from childhood, that i'd be preaching to the choir, and blowing smoke to the ones who need to hear it.  I'm not blaming people who want to see a ball game, but I am calling a spade a card game.

But i'll say this: (Mainstream "Hip-Hop") They paint Black dudes as strong physically, but not mentally.  They're incapable of love....but they'll "f**k these hoes".  Equalling an absent father to tons of kids and a pissed off mother.  Those kids eventually become absent fathers and pissed off babies' mommies that get made fun of by black husbands that cheat on their wives with them.  

Then...they paint the women as "f**kable, but not loveable".  And so many women can't WAIT to be half-naked on Instagram for 3,000 likes.  You go girl.  The trust issue is huge in everyone's vocabulary when the whole time, you don't even know this game of "cat and mouse" was set up from the very beginning.  It's cool, don't listen to me though.

I don't care how much money you're counting.  I'm not taking a snake's money.  Fuck him and that money.  And yeah, i've had plenty of opportunities.  I'll share those in my book, damn it. 

FACTS ABOUT THIS DONALD STERLING STORY:

He was sued twice by the federal government after refusing to rent apartments to minorities.

In the 2005 case, he was ordered to pay a $2.73million fine to settle.

In a 2009 case, he was accused of refusing to rent to non-Koreans when it came to a property in Koreatown and refused African American tenants for a property in Beverly Hills.

He was reportedly accused of saying that he wouldn't rent to Hispanics because they 'smoke, drink and just hang around the building'.

The suit also accused Sterling of saying, 'Black tenants smell and attract vermin'.

He was also named in a 2003 lawsuit wherein he crudely described how he had sex with a prostitute who charged $500-per-tryst. 

In that case, he admitted that 'maybe I morally did something wrong' but went on to explain that 'it was purely sex for money, money for sex, sex for money, money for sex,' according to records obtained by The Smoking Gun.

(Information I pulled from DailyMail.co.uk)

(This recorded conversation is allegedly between Donald Sterling and his girlfriend, who goes by the name V. Stiviano, who identifies herself as part Mexican and part African American.)

VS: I wish I could change the skin. The color of my skin
DS: That isn't the issue. You've missed the issue.
VS: What's the issue?
DS: The issue is we don't have to broadcast everything.
VS: I'm not broadcasting anything. I don't do anything wrong. 

DS: Why are you taking pictures with minorities... why?

The conversation centered around a now-deleted photo that Stiviano put on Instagram of herself and Magic Johnson (pictured)

VS: What's wrong with minorities? What's wrong with black people?
DS: Nothing, nothing, nothing.
VS: What's wrong with Hispanics?
DS: It's like talking to an enemy. There's nothing wrong with minorities, they're fabulous. Fabulous. Because you're an enemy to me.
VS: Why?
DS: Because you don't understand.
VS: I don't understand what?
DS: Nothing, nothing.
VS: That racism still is a lie?
DS: No but there's a culture.
VS: What culture?
DS: People feel certain things. Hispanics feel certain things towards blacks. Blacks feel certain things towards other groups. It's been that way historically and it will always be that way.
VS: But it's not that way in my heart and in my mind.
DS: But maybe you want to adjust to the world. 

DS: Yea it bothers me a lot that you want to broadcast that you're associated with black people. Do you have to?
VS: You associate with black people.
DS: I'm not you and you're not me. You're supposed to be a delicate white or a delicate Latina girl.
VS: I'm a mixed girl.
DS: Ok well.
VS: And you're in love with me. And I'm black and Mexican. Whether you like it or not. Whether the world accepts it or not. And you're asking me to remove.... you want me to have hate towards black people?
DS: I don't want you to have hate. That's what people do- they turn things around. I want you to love them- privately. In your whole life, everyday you can be with them. Every single day of your life.
VS: But not in public?
DS: But why publicize it on the Instagram and why bring it to my games? 

VS: I can't believe that a man who's educated, a man who's a scholar, a man...

DS: Well believe it, and stop talking about it. Let's finish our discussion with a period, ok? 

VS: I took a picture with someone I admire (Magic Johnson).
DS: Good
VS: He happens to be black, and I'm sorry.
DS: I think the fact that you admire him- I've known him well, and he should be admired. And I'm just saying that it's too bad you can't just admire him privately, and during your entire f****** life, your whole life- admire him, bring him here, feed him, f*** him, I don't care. You can do anything. But don't put him on an Instagram for the world to have to see so they have to call me. And don't bring him to my games, OK?

(Excerpt from DailyMail.co.uk)

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Nelly Gives Sound Relationship Advice. After Tip Drill. I'm As Shocked As You Are.

Nelly had a lot of valuable things to say to VladTV about why a marriage in the entertainment industry is a "different animal", where the situations should not be measured through a normal everyday person perspective.

Honestly, I can feel his position 100%.  He talked about how the dynamic of the entertainment industry makes it difficult to really connect with a mate because of constant distance.

Then he says, he knows he'll be ready for marriage when there's no question of anything - he will just know.

And this is just my opinion kids. If more of these women would hold their kitty dumplings to a higher standard, it would force men to value it more and settle down.  Good women have to pay for you heaux and even though the industry has always been full of groupie love, the regular folk are imitating that life at an epidemic rate.  

Sexual freedom is one thing, but the majority of women want love.  And I'm sorry, Kanye might wife the one who slept with the homies, but your everyday man who would still put a ring on it wants a woman who he knows holds herself to a higher standard.

(check out interview footage w/ VLADTV.com)

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10 OF THE WORST TYPES OF PEOPLE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH

(Jackie Chan's face is priceless though...LOL)

1. The Know-it-All.

I don't know why some people make it a priority to act like an expert on every issue.  It's almost like saying "I don't really know" is a mark of shame that they'll never be able to live down.  It's okay to simply say, "I don't know".  Annoying little bastards.

2. The One Who Argues In Public.

It’s almost as if this boyfriend/girlfriend feeds off of the uncomfortable energy and appalled expressions of onlookers as he/she gets louder, angrier and increasingly hysterical in the restaurant, or at the party, or wherever you’re regretting going out to, while your insides are filled with humiliation. All of the room’s eyes are on you and while you’re mortified, you kind of understand because you get that this moment would be quite enjoyable to watch if you weren’t involved in it.

3. The Complainer.

It’s too cold. It’s too hot. This is so expensive. This is so cheap. It’s gross in here. It smells out there. This room is too bright. This room is too dim. We’ve been in all day, I want to go out. This place sucks, I want to go home. This is the one that makes life worth stabbing yourself in the kidney.  The only thing that truly sucks is the life that they are sucking out of the day that could be pretty damn great if they weren't so annoying.

4. You're Dating A "Baby".

You just don't match on many things because there's a slight difference in generational perspective.  Getting "Lifted" or turning into a drunky pooh might not be the highest item on your priority list and they look at you like you're a grandparent.  OR...you can't really discuss grown issues or situations with them because their perspective is too premature or sheltered by their lack of experience.  Some people don't mind teaching while others just feel mildly ashamed they're dating a toddler.

5. The Parent-Partner.

They’re less like a lover and more like a chaperone. It’s amazing how often people forget that you’re supposed to have fun with the person you’re dating. It’s not supposed to feel like you can’t be seen laughing or having a good time – this isn’t Matilda where Miss Trunchbull will lock your ass in The Chokey for enjoying life. If you want to spend time with friends or make adult jokes or watch an R-rated movie, you shouldn’t be hesitant to do so because you’re dreading your significant other’s hostile reaction. (SBM.com)

6. The “Realistic” One.

Ah, the dream killing, goal squashing, aspiration slaying lover. Will Smith once said, “Being realistic is the most commonly traveled road to mediocrity.” That’s beyond accurate and who wants to be with someone who encourages practicality and doesn’t further motivate you to do the things you want in life? Embrace high risk, high reward opportunities, attempt the unheard of, live life like it’s the Tumblr search results for the word “inspirational.” It’s essentially impossible to do those things with an in-the-box-thinking lover. (SBM.com)

7. The Possessive One.

The clinginess is flattering and adorable at first, but when you’re treated like a toy belonging to a selfish child long enough it gets exhausting. Stay involved in this too long and people will starting making memes with you and your boo's picture instead of Ike and Tina.

8. The Double Standard One.

If you interact amicably with an ex it’s the end of the world but they think it’s okay to be cool with people they’ve dated in the past. Don’t raise your voice at them, but endure their rising volume during arguments. Don’t have a bunch of women/men friends but they will, so deal with it. There should be some sort of established, mutual understanding that includes equal levels of respect. Double standard enforcers are typically also the controlling types. (SBM.com)

9. The Comparer.

My ex did this. This couple did that. That character that isn’t real life but is incredibly romantic in a movie did this & that. Why can’t you do sweet things like that romantic character in a movie who isn’t real life but did this & that? Seriously, this must be what parents feel like when a kid tries to get permission to go to a party by saying “But, so-and-so’s mom & dad are letting him go!” and slightly offended they respond, “WELL GOOD FOR THEM, but I’m your parent.” Also, the expectations from this person aren’t necessarily high. For example, say their ex was “busy” a lot and turned out to be cheating – well now every time you work late your whereabouts and actions will be questioned. (SBM.com)

10. The Master Manipulator.

Words will be twisted, lies will be told, exaggerations will be made and they’ll hope to sway your opinions and flip the script, turning themselves into the victim and you into a monster. Conversations with this person are a lot like a heavily edited reality TV series that stretches the truth until it can be molded to fit the absurd storylines desired. If you’re not about that VH1 life, don’t even bother. (SBM.com)

DID I MISS ANY OTHER ONES????

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CiCi Maintaining Sexy....in the LAST Trimester!

The beauty of maternity is deeper than any words, I swear!!!  Ciara looks fabulous within her third trimester (aka the Mask of Death, shoot me now, when is this BS going to end I have to pee every 3 seconds and somebody get me some ice cream ASAP trimester).

It's awesome that Ciara is trying to maintain the precious moments of her pregnancy.  

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Jigga Gets A Honeymoon Yacht Instead of Attending the Kimye Wedding. ALRIGHTY.

I can kind of understand how Bey and Jay want to keep their empire out of the messiness of the whole "reality realm" but that's a tough one.  That's your boy.  At the end of the day, I would imagine the two business-savvy gentleman have already come to an understanding about the situation.

What do you all think?  Do you feel like Jay and Bey should be in attendance for his boy's wedding? Or is the pricy several hundred thousand dollar yacht a sufficient exchange for his absence?

"According to Britain’s The Sun newspaper, Jay Z plans on making is absence up to Kim & Kanye by throwing them a lavish wedding party at his New York club 40/40. The paper also reports that Jay’s going to drop $160,000 to charter a yacht for the couple’s honeymoon."

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Kevin Hart's Ex-Wife, Torrei Says She Still Hurts From The Divorce

I seriously had a feeling that Torrei (Kevin Hart's ex-wife) was not at all accepting of his current relationship with Eniko and I was correct.

Initially, I totally understood where Kevin was coming from when he talked about how he settled down at a very early age (early 20s) with a woman and went through a lot of the growing pains that couples usually go through - and he had to do much of this while he was gaining a fan base and popularity.  So you go from a regular Joe on the street to a "big deal" and your standards are tested because you have a new-found selection of opportunities, especially with WOMEN.

But then Torrei comes out in her interview with Jamie Brown from Sister 2 Sister Magazine that she is in fact still trying to emotionally heal from the way the marriage ended when she was the one with him "shooting in the gym".  He has his MVP trophy and is celebrating with this new woman who he refers to as his "rib".

This is a quote from some of that interview:

"It’s easy to be somebody’s rib when you’re a millionaire. That’s just me being as honest as I can. Me, for instance: You’re working at City Sports and I’m taking you to your shows, you’re driving my car, you’re crashing my car several times, and I’m still there for you, supporting you, went out and got a job for the phone company and still making sure I got your back so you can pursue your dreams…That’s what ribs do!”   -- Torrei Hart

So after reading some of the comments on MadameNoire.com, I would have to say these two basically illustrate my thoughts (especially coming from a person who invested almost a decade of my life myself):

(Click on the photo to enlarge)

Kevin is a hell of an entertainer, but I totally disagree with his choice to show off a new woman after the mother of his children invested so much to help him become who he is today.  Put the shoe on the other foot.  Let the woman be the star and let Kevin be the one who supported her.  In society she would be the devil reincarnated.  Trust and BEEEELIEVE.  Double-standards all day, everyday.

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