There is a difference between a person who has a checklist of what they want and don't want in a mate versus having a standard. Meaning, there are some people who really are their own worst enemy and will likely have to experience loneliness before they come off of their high horse and stop being so critical of a potential good catch. But these people shouldn't be confused with a person who has a standard of what they know they are looking for.
FOR EXAMPLE...There is a difference between someone who is GOING THROUGH SOMETHING and someone who is ABOUT THAT LIFE.
Like a person in-between jobs because of hard times compared to a person who is in-between jobs because they're unreliable and irresponsible.
Like a person who had a brush with the law before, and someone whose New Years Resolution is to update his mug shot the cops have on file.
A person who might have gotten weak at one point and stepped out on their mate and someone who makes a hobby out of entertaining other prospects. (BEFORE YOU BLACK OUT ON WHAT I JUST SAID....I am not condoning cheating, so don't even go there...I'm only speaking of the difference in mindset.)
Everybody has a threshold of what they will and won't accept, but the problem is when we don't understand when we're either judging a book by it's cover too soon, or when we're not calling a spade a spade. (I love using cliches to prove a point - I'm lying, I just gagged myself.)
It's important we step back and make sure we understand that fact because some of y'all may have let go of a good thing because of overreacting to something that wasn't a habit, but more of an imperfect moment or timeframe.
Make sure you know the difference.
